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December 31, 2006

Have Any Kinky New Year's Resolutions?

Category: Miscellany

Have specific plans or goals for changing how BDSM fits into your life in the coming year? Some new fetish? Doing things better?

December 30, 2006


Category: Entertainments

Yellow Peril female supremacist? Asian gynarchist? Oriental supervillaness?

December 27, 2006

Sublime Sardax

Category: Reference

A short appreciation of the most gifted illustration of female domination and sadistm.

December 26, 2006

Current Sense of Sexuality

Category: My Inner Life

My erotic drives seem completely focused in surrender and devotion - for now.

December 25, 2006

That Silly Old Real Slave Debate

Category: BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations

This lexical narrowness based on chattel slavery keeps pointless discussions about what makes a person a real slave going on within the BDSM community.

December 24, 2006

Serene Alienation

Category: BDSM Play

The queer, quirky emotional states, mood transformations of shared loving sadomasochistic exploration between two loving partners.

December 23, 2006

The Romance of the Cage

Category: Stories By Others

Putting a man in a cage need not be a sinister form of D/s play. Thank you Lady Julia.

December 22, 2006

Tortured Beyond Recovery

Category: About

The ugly and terrifying night when my poor uncle's mind was destroyed and he was left a helpless vegetable. Not fiction.

As Pretty as a Picture

Category: My Inner Life

Looking at photographs of sexy women as therapy.

December 20, 2006

Play and Have Fun

Category: Emotional Health

Is it OK to laugh during a BDSM scene? Can humor kink and fetish blend together?

December 19, 2006

Male Chastity Devices : Their Erotic Power

Category: Chastity

The psychological and emotional value of using a physical device in some male orgasm denial scenarios.

Introverted Intuitive Feeling Perceiving

Category: Miscellany

Silly online personality test.

A Submissive Male Can Still Be a Man

Category: Emotional Health

Even a F/m relationship with a man worshiping a woman as a goddess doesn't mean he isn't masculine and shouldn't express his needs.

December 18, 2006

Pansexual Perve : The Interview

Category: About

An interview with the slavish fetishistic man who writes Down On My Knees.

Chastity Devices : Their Variety and Lore

Category: Chastity

Do you know the secret history of male chastity belts and restraints? Who decided that preventing masturbation was for fun and not morality?

December 15, 2006

Chastity : Our Next Step?

Category: Chastity

My beloved and I talk or beginning a period of orgasm regulation and control for me as a way to recover sexually from the damage of my prior relationship.

The Fantasies : The End

Category: Prior Relationship

Focusing on the real lover, girlfriend, dominant and stopping masturbating about impossible BDSM dreams.


Category: S&M Fantasies

I'm a masochist but I've never felt inspired or aroused by the genuine suffering of victims of torture or abuse.

December 13, 2006

10 Quotes About Labels in BDSM

Category: Reference

Falsity of standard terms for dominance and submission with in the fetish and kink community.

December 12, 2006

Last : Constructing the Perfect Fantasy

Category: S&M Fantasies

When masochistic desires push the edge of 24/7 TPE, psychological enslavement, emotional manipulation.

S&M and Stress : A Scene

Category: Emotional Health

Creating a happy BDSM play scene as a form of emotional release during times of emotional turmoil.

December 11, 2006

Female Chauvinism vs. Gynosupremacy

Category: Reference

Diversity among women who espouse visions of the female as the natural superior of the male. Did you know that Elise Sutton has a new book out?

December 10, 2006

Yet Again: Constructing the Perfect Fantasy

Category: S&M Fantasies

Trying to cope with having masochistic desires that are physically or psychologically dangerous or impossible.


Category: Entertainments

How much of a place in the mythology and popular culture of female domination does this fictional goddess have?

She Who Must Be Obeyed

Category: Entertainments

Femdom archetype? Ayesha, the Queen of Death, the White Goddess of the lost city of Kôr. The high-priestess of the Egyptian moon-goddess Isis, and Amenartes Nectanebes, daughter of the last pharaoh of Egypt.

December 9, 2006

Do You Want to Die Happy?

Category: My Inner Life

One conceptualization of the true paradigm of Mistress/Master - slave relationships and the emotional capacity to actually live within them.

December 8, 2006

Your True Way

Category: Emotional Health

A woman wishing to explore female dominance need to establish her own metaphor, personal style: not be misled by people teaching abstract rules or preachings of perfect norms.

D/s : Another Model

Category: BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations

A different way of thinking of the dynamics of BDSM, play, interaction and relationships.

December 7, 2006

Fah Lo Suee

Category: Entertainments

Has the image of Fu Manchu's daughter ever featured in men's fantasies as a wicked Asian dominatrix?

December 6, 2006

Watching Something Together

Category: My Inner Life

Alexandra and I discuss the idea of watching some hardcore clips of female domination and sadism together as a couple.

Femdom Lies

Category: Miscellany

Half-truths and untruths that dominant women and submissive men tell each other.

December 5, 2006

More: Constructing the Perfect Fantasy

Category: S&M Fantasies

Choosing the women to fantasize about for imaginary BDSM experiences, models, drawings and actresses.

December 4, 2006

Fetish Toys

Category: Instruments

Let us review your bondage furniture, BDSM gear, S&M implements, cbt or chastity devices.

Constructing the Perfect Fantasy

Category: S&M Fantasies

Striving to imagine hardcore but workable long-term sadomasochistic play scenarios.

Queen Antinea

Category: Entertainments

The cruel goddess who ruled Atlantis and preyed on men seems like a reasonable Femdom fantasy source.

December 2, 2006

Paradox of Pain

Category: Pain

The peculiar mix of thrill and fear that is at the root of much masochism.

December 1, 2006

Happy Holidays

Category: About

Seasons greetings to my site's readers.