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June 30, 2007

BDSM Conditioning : Various Thoughts

Category: BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations

Psychology of BDSM training rituals and conditioning protocols and regimens to enhance, explore, expand power exchange, F/m roles, sadomasochistic scenes and sessions.

June 28, 2007

Training & Conditioning

Category: D/s Practices

Consensual BDSM mind control? Is there such a thing as risk aware behavior modification within a loving D/s relationship?

June 27, 2007

Masochist Rebound Syndrome Revisited

Category: Cravings

Emotional stress, erotic strain of frustrated male masochistic cravings to be hurt, feel pain.

June 26, 2007

Hit Me!

Category: Pain

Human punching back as a form of risk aware BDSM play.

June 25, 2007

It Depends

Category: About

Writing about BDSM and fetish is necessarily an idiosyncratic, highly personal act.

June 22, 2007

Her Last Time Here : A Summary

Category: BDSM Play

How our BDSM and S&M play went when my beloved sadist was last home with me.

June 21, 2007

Fidelity Can Be Funny

Category: My Inner Life

A desire to avoid even the seeming appearance of any sort of infidelity in my BDSM love affair.

Femdom Synarchy - Insecurity?

Category: Gender Follies

Is male self-doubt the root of female supremacy and gynarchic politics?


Category: BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations

Men who masturbate about wives and girlfriends who deny them orgasms are sort of symbol of some of the paradoxes within BDSM.

June 20, 2007

Ideal Female Sadist

Category: S&M Fantasies

Genuine erotic desire to inflict pain and practiced skill are the most desirable qualities in a sadistic woman.

June 19, 2007

Barbwire Bondage

Category: S&M Fantasies

A singularly painful form of confinement.

June 18, 2007

Ten (Eleven) Words

Category: BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations

Playful summary of what certain words mean to me in the context of my loving BDSM relationship.

The Pain of Not Being Hurt

Category: Cravings

When male masochistic desires become emotionally overwhelming: erotic anxiety and sexual desperation.

June 17, 2007

Woman Worship : The Revelation

Category: My Inner Life

Discovering my joy in women who are dominant, cruel but really much more than merely that. The pleasure of F/m power exchange and BDSM.

June 16, 2007

Structure, Plan, Map

Category: Prior Relationship

Adding semi-contractual agreements to a loving BDSM relationship.

Quality of Suffering

Category: Pain

In a S&M love affair the quality of pain inflicted and not the quantity is the real measurement of a successful BDSM session or scene.

Individuality and Kink

Category: BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations

Beware internet truisms about BDSM. Learn how to be the dominant, submissive, masochist, sadist that you really are.

Structured Topping from the Bottom

Category: Emotional Health

Allowing the masochist to set the agenda for torture sessions as a way of healing a troubled sadomasochistic love affair.

Profiting From the Loss of Libido

Category: Prior Relationship

BDSM love affairs: Even with diminished sex drive struggling to please her was surprisingly satisfying.

Loss of Masochism and Libido

Category: Prior Relationship

Coping with the loss of sexual desire - possibly due to hypothyroidism - in a loving BDSM relationship.

Loss and Separation

Category: Prior Relationship

When your dominant / top is your lover being apart is terribly painful.

June 3, 2007


Category: Genitorment

Put an anchor shackle around testicles and then hang a bucket of produce from his scrotal sac.

June 1, 2007

Icy Hot Nipples

Category: BDSM Play

Mentholated cream gives nipple torment a pungent conclusion.