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August 30, 2007

Warning to BlogSpot Bloggers

Category: F/m Weblogs

Malware attack on Google's blogging platform may affect BDSM and sex blog authors and readers.

August 29, 2007

Verbal Abuse & Fear

Category: Humbling

Discovering that verbal humiliation's effect on me probably comes from early childhood experiences.

August 27, 2007

My Monogamy : Afterword

Category: Polyamory Considered , Category: Prior Relationship

What should a monogamous man do if he discovers the woman he loves is interested in exploring polyamory?

August 24, 2007

BDSM Microcultures

Category: BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations

Fetish cultural studies: our different lifestyle referents and assumptions about words, labels and terms create barriers in the discussion, communication of atypical sexuality. Particularly how the visible portion of the kink community differs from the invisible majority.

August 22, 2007

My Monogamy

Category: My Inner Life , Category: Polyamory Considered

Why though I'm a pansexual polyfetishist I don't have the emotional qualities - call it maturity - for polyamorous relationships.

August 21, 2007

Switches! Don't! Exist!

Category: BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations

Some claim you must be master, mistress, dominant, top or slave, submissive, bottom. That you can't honestly and honorably mix the two power exchange orientations.

August 20, 2007

Time Without Alexandra

Category: Prior Relationship

I've learned to cope with being in a sometimes long distance romance.

The Man-Dog

Category: Entertainments

Early French femdom erotica: The Countess with the whip, Beautiful and terrible (the Man-dog). Novel of a heroine of Sacher-Masoch.

August 18, 2007


Category: Emotional Health

Spending time in jail could've given me a chance to live out some BDSM fantasies. Instead being locked up taught me that some desires may be unrealizable.

August 14, 2007


Category: My Inner Life

Why kidnapping scenarios, even as fantasies squick me and scare me.

August 13, 2007

Fantasies Flatline

Category: S&M Fantasies

Am I losing my ability to have entertaining and enjoyable kinky fantasies?

August 12, 2007


Category: My Inner Life

Femdom cultural studies: well, actually just another sample of my sexual psychohistorical self-exploration. Or verbal noodling.

August 7, 2007

Femdom Categorical Imperatives

Category: Emotional Health

Foolish rules and guidelines that are supposed to govern female dominant, submissive male power exchange relationships.

August 6, 2007

Superior Tops & Inferior Bottoms

Category: Emotional Health

Belief that BDSM power exchange relationships require an inherently superior dominant and really inferior submissive person.

Female Dominants With Clothing Fetishes

Category: BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations

Are there any female tops whose dominance or sadism is stimulated by certain ordinary articles of attire on males?

August 4, 2007


Emotional reality of BDSM slave training in reality, real life instead of just erotic fantasies.

August 3, 2007

BDSM as Religious Experience

Category: Worship & ecstasy

Psychology, emotional risks of worship of the dominant and the parallel between power exchange, sadomasochism and religion.


Category: S&M Fantasies

Body modification -penectomy, castration - in sadomasochistic fantasies and perhaps practice.

August 1, 2007


Category: My Inner Life

Is this old courtesy title, term of respect usable as a word for addressing a female top? Is Ma'am too old fashioned, does it have inappropriate cultural associations?