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September 30, 2007

Reaction Bottom

Category: BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations

On the mutual cultivation of responsiveness in dominant and submissive persons.

September 29, 2007

What I Wouldn't Be Looking For

Category: In Search Of

Keeping my expectations and hopes for someone to do BDSM within sane boundaries.

September 28, 2007

Virtual Beer and Tea

Category: Prior Relationship

My thanks for kind words.

September 26, 2007

Three Years

Category: About

An abbreviated summary of my years blogging on the web.


Category: Prior Relationship

Looking for insight into my emotional state from my sexual fantasies.

September 25, 2007

The End

Category: Prior Relationship

A loving, long distance romance that included BDSM is no more.

September 24, 2007

Durham, North Carolina

Category: In Search Of

Looking for a top, dominant, master, domme, sadist in Research Triangle, NC: which sites would you use?

Femdom and Courtly Love

Category: Miscellany

Scholarship that men and women engaged in romantic female domination may have a false concept of early medieval literary culture.

September 22, 2007

Hypothetical Profile

Category: In Search Of

Thinking a little bit more about the theoretical possibility of meeting a BDSM play partner online.


Category: Polyamory Considered

Term captures my lover's current goal better than polyamory.

The Briar Patch

Category: S&M Fantasies

An example of the painful imaginings of a young masochist.

September 21, 2007


Category: Polyamory Considered

Nonmonogamy vs. monogamy and self-pity.

On Being a Reaction Top

Category: D/s Practices

Adaptive, fluid, graceful, imaginative BDSM vs the fear of being a service top.

September 20, 2007


Category: Entertainments

People who have fantasies invoking historical evils maybe the ultimate outsiders in BDSM.

September 19, 2007

In Search Of

Category: In Search Of

How would you sum up your essence if crafting a BDSM personal or profile?

Preposterous CBT VII

Category: Genitorment

Combining: Noxema, Icy Hot, Vicks VapoRub and capsaicin.

September 18, 2007

Edifying Wanking

Category: Prior Relationship

What my current mastubatory practices and fantasies tell me about my current emotional state.


Category: Polyamory Considered

My lover and I talk about the possible effect of seeing other people would have on our relationship.

September 17, 2007

On Not Chatting

Category: Polyamory Considered

There are times when less immeadiate and direct forms of communication are best.


Category: My Inner Life

Loving both genders, queer bisexuality, pansexual pleasures.

September 15, 2007


Category: Miscellany

Assorted remarks: neither thrills nor amusement are promised.

September 13, 2007


Category: Polyamory Considered

Is it possible for a monogamous person to adapt to polyamory?

The Problem of Romantic Monogamy

Category: Polyamory Considered

Is it possible for a monogamous person to change their affectional orientation?

Hypothetical Partners

Category: Polyamory Considered

Theoretical consideration of BDSM experiences outside of my current romance.

Feeling Nonsexual

Category: Polyamory Considered

How the mere prospect of polyamory seems to have shut me down sexually.


Category: My Inner Life

Short note about myself. For friends only, no content for perverts, sorry.


Category: Polyamory Considered

Uncertainty and doubt in thinking about the prospect of seeing other people for BDSM or erotic play.

September 12, 2007

On Romantic Paranoia

Category: Polyamory Considered

Seeking emotional integration and clarity during a time of internal confusion and conflict.

September 11, 2007

Dreaming of Tom Allen

Category: Miscellany

Proving that the mind is a terribly wasteful thing.

September 10, 2007

On Seeing Other People

Category: Polyamory Considered , Category: Prior Relationship

As a monogamous man I have to accept that the polyamorous desires of my lover may spell the end of our BDSM romance.

Futile Lust

Category: My Inner Life

Some nights being pansexual and having a mostly adaptive erotic orientation can actually be frustrating and confusing.

September 9, 2007

BDSM & Eros

Category: BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations

The sexual psychology of sadomasochism is more subtle than many people seem to think.

September 8, 2007

Nazi Femdom

Category: BDSM News

Stalag fiction - stories of Nazi women in concentration camps torturing men - highlights what many consider the darkest side of sadomasochistic fantasy and play.

September 6, 2007

Is BDSM Sexual?

Category: BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations

Is seeing a disconnect between power exchange, sadomasochism and visible sexual response a failure of language, psychology or erotic empathy?

September 3, 2007

Kinky Bliss : Three Stages

Category: Humbling

The particular pleasures that being submissive in my F/m relationship give me.

Proof of Perversion

Category: Miscellany

When the quest for pervertables leave you without necessary kitchen tools.