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It was over two years ago that on Amorous Propensities I posted quotes from a few attractive M/f weblogs I’d run across. A taste for symmetry left me wishing to quote a few F/m weblogs. The few I found had long been abandoned. I made a mental note to look again later and forgot about it.
A few months later Alexandra and I began our transition to an entanglement that is more than friendship. Having written about myself, particularly my (nonkinky) sexuality on the web for years I decided to establish this site.
The project of listing F/m weblogs came back to mind and my search was renewed.
I found two, one each from a female master and a male slave.
It was baffling. Even accounting for proportionate quantities why were dominant men and submissive women more willing to express themselves than people exploring female domination? I asked on forums, probably even bitched about it here.
The only speculation anyone offered was that submissive men – responding to gender expectations – were ashamed to write about themselves. Which didn’t explain the lack of weblogs by Dommes.
Happily this silence ended and guys have proven they aren’t ashamed to write of worshiping a woman.
As more write yet more will feel inclined to also share their experiences.
I’m tempted to cite some of you but I’d hate to wound anyone by omission. Some of you write with great insight and passion, all of you seem to write from the heart. (And I’ve tried to make it easier for people to find you here and here.)
This site has changed over time. I know that the entries are often less personal. When Alexandra is away there’s not much to report. And if you were to search my archives you’d see that I’ve done my best to reveal everything about my masochism and need to surrender.
And often the site isn’t as F/m centric at times. Much of D/s and S&M is universal without the specifics of the bodies involved.
It has become rare for me to post images. For two reasons. I don’t want to give the attorney general an excuse to knock at my door. Some folks simply took their sites down. And you see the same images showing up on many blogs. So even though I have about a gigabyte of ‘Femdom’ artwork I use it rarely.
Today I thought I’d post a couple of photos of Jordan, the UK’s most famous exponent of silicone enhancement (six times I think). Pretty tawdry but I hope they provide you solace during the midnight hours.
If you keep an online BDSM diary, journal or blog maybe you’ll take a moment and tell me why you started, what it has meant to you. Has it helped you grow? Is it a chore or a joy to write about D/s, DD, LFA, FLR, S&M?
My best wishes to you all. Thanks for reading. May all your (sane) fantasies become realities.
Comments
Very interesting blog. I’ve been in several M/f relationships, as the M, and they’re a source of constant curiousity for me now, especially with the breaking of my late slave. She’s still, officially (and, though I feel distanced, emotionally), my girlfriend, though only a slave in sex. It needs to be this way for her to heal old wounds.
After several experiences, I’m starting to wonder.. are there happily completely enslaved female slaves who can not attribute their stance to a past trauma?
Posted by: ReofBl | November 13, 2006 10:51 AM
If it were only happily enslaved I’d say the answer is an unequivocal yes.
But “completely” enslaved complicates things. I assume you mean 24/7-TPE-lifestyle.
That kind of relationship must require an amazing level of compatibility, emotional health and great psychological insight on both sides. What I’ve seen people who say they are in such it seems to be an ongoing effort. Not that most relationships aren’t to some degree but more so than most.
I know that some of my needs stem from childhood “trauma” but I got past that long ago.
Best of luck to you and your girlfriend.
Posted by: Richard | November 13, 2006 3:22 PM
I find it very interesting that there were more M/f blogs then F/m blogs. For me, I love the sexual energy of a woman in a F/m scene and I do love the thought of worshipping a woman for 24/7. But in reality, it would be impossible. In real life I prefer the women that I am in a relationship with to be more on the submissive side, but definately not a slave. My thoughts on why there are more M/f blogs is that there are more M/f relationships. There are much more women who want to live as submissives then there are Female Dommes. That is why a Female Domme can get top dollar selling her services to men who crave it. It works better when the man is in charge. (Sorry Ladies) When a man has a submissive woman they have sex almost all the time (at least in my case) but when a woman has a submissive man she demonstrates her power by forcing chastity and other ways. I just think it’s more natural for the man to be the Dominant one. Most relationships, even vanilla relationships, have some variation of this. When the woman is the boss, even in vanilla relationships, there is less sex in the house.
Arguilo
P.S. I saw you mentioned the DVD Miss Carrie Ann’s boarding House on your blog. I was wondering how it got there? I am the producer of that DVD and I’m flattered. Did you watch it?
Arguilo
Arguilo
Posted by: Arguilo | January 14, 2008 10:27 AM