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» BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations
What is up with that tongue?
It is the most common clichι about the clients of professional female dominants. I think it is a lie. At least a fib.
“People often think that men who need to be dominated are weak mama’s boys, but in reality a lot of people who come to dominatrix are very powerful people. The more power they have in real life, the more submissive they want to be when they come to see me. They just want to turn over the reigns and take orders for a change.”
These are “people that rule the world,” explains Domme Dietrich, 24, a co-presenter of the Cat O’ Nine party. “My clients are prominent, affluent people. They win all day. They want to lose once.”
This appeals to journalists because of its simple symmetry. It offers the pleasure of an easily digested insight. Common signs of falsehood.
ProDommes like it because it makes their customers seem glamorous.
Nobody says this about those of us who enjoy nonprofessional domination.
Nor about submissive women. Or submissive gay men.
People who actualize their need for submission are surely stronger than those who are too timid to do so. But they don’t necessarily run major enterprises.
Comments
I bet the proportion of high-powered executive types who are sexually submissive is the same as the proportion of mousy guys or couch potatoes or smokers or any other group who are. They may be slightly overrepresented as clients of pro doms because they have money and are used to using it to get what they want. But I’m with you - I doubt there is any natural symmetry or inclination for alpha males to want to unwind by being bottoms.
Posted by: Dev | April 7, 2008 3:26 PM
Yeah, being able to pay for it certainly biases the sample population.
Posted by: Richard | April 7, 2008 3:43 PM
Having been a pro Domme back in the late 90’s I will tell you that some of the men were high profile. At least that is what they told me.
Then there were men that had highly stressful jobs and I was a bit of a release for them.
I will say thta the mjority really were not submissive at all and more along the boder line of dominant masochists. They were very specific in what play they wanted and the details of the scenes. Hey they were the cleints and I was the service provider. Hence the reason I retired.
There were a few men tht were truely submissive that had a hard time finding dominanat women and allowed me to do what I wanted in the scene, eventually those men became more of my friends.
So in answer to your question: Not all the cleints are the alpha males and in reality it would be hard to even tell as most cleints don’t even tell you thier real names.
Posted by: Mz. Carmen | April 8, 2008 9:20 AM
As you say it is a nice symmetrical simplification. I have found as a submissive woman that I am only submissive to alpha males, another contrary simplification.
Posted by: doll | April 11, 2008 7:16 PM
I don’t think that is unusual in submissive people who are attracted to dominant men.
Gay leather tops tend toward the hypermasculine.
Posted by: Richard | April 11, 2008 7:29 PM