Gyneolatry vs. Gynarchy
» BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations
As I’ve said I like the term Woman Worship. I adore Alexandra in a knightly fashion and some nights more abjectly. Doesn’t mean that I’ll be joining the S/M Church.
Looking down on others is one of the chief human passions. For centuries people have found religious, political and cultural justifications of finding others less than they. Nationalists, homophobes, racists and sociopathic soccer fans all indulge in it.
I like the cover Sardax did for Elise Suttons’s book. And was charmed when I first saw her home page.
But digging into her archives I was appalled by her defenses of rotten marriages because the woman was in charge. I’m a product of a bad marriage. The only sane course if you’ve linked yourself to a selfish partner is to end it.
Sutton’s bargain basement, patchwork sociology doesn’t require deconstructing. It doesn’t even have the weak empirical underpinnings of the Bell Curve. (I guess it is profitable since she pushes an expensive e-zine and telephone ‘counseling.’)
Do you require such half-baked ideology for your own enjoyment of F/m relationships? (And has my note prompted you to remove your link to this site?)
Alexandra has written her thoughts in Female Supremacy? Count Me Out!
Comments
I too have not much faith in the belief of those who espouse the Gynarchy. I look at the environment of the OWK and think, well okay they can have thier space thats cool, but I wouldn’t care to be under it myself. Even though I identify as a Female Dominant, I have no problems with Male Dominants, power as we deal with it is a Kink, and I enjoy it as well as my submissive, whom I love and cherish… people who are very much into Gynarchy feel in a way that the men who serve them are to be driven into the ground and made to PAY for every other man out there. Some don’t mind this type of play, but I have always thought of those in my service as people I am responsible for… and must be cared for and cherished. Not beaten within an inch of their life and left there without some sort of aftercare… but thats me.
Posted by: Miss Silver | August 24, 2005 3:43 AM
If I were single and had the money a week at the OWK might be fun. But I could never be one of the men who live there. (Wish someone would write a sober account of the place.)
I’d never thought of how resentment for sexism might drive some women into believing female superiority. Likewise some men must accept it as a way of dealing with guilt or feelings of inadequacy.
And some people are just using it as a way to make money.
Not to mention something like the hilarious womanthouartgod.com.
Having been with Alexandra it is hard for me to imagine D/s without affection, ideally love. And the idea of being with someone who doesn’t understand the need for aftercare is chilling.
Posted by: Richard | August 24, 2005 8:38 AM
I adore the fact that I have found this discussion group! As a male dominant, Sutton’s ideology makes me feel left out. The idea of gynarchy seems not only socially ridiculous, but economically as well. In a world of high cost and high quality of living Male and Female equality is a must have. If there is a need for a power exchange, so be it, but please, leave it in the bedroom.
Posted by: D | January 27, 2006 12:08 AM
People who participate in alternative sexualities are the last who should engage in the false political and social consciousness of generic human inferiority.
Posted by: Richard | January 27, 2006 8:12 AM