Male Submission & Self-Esteem

If I may add one caveat to that: show, don’t tell. It’s easy to say that you’re smart, funny or sincere. When writing a letter or profile, though, it’s better to show her how smart, funny or sincere you are through how well you are able to convey your thoughts or feelings. I’m certainly not bragging, but in the short time I’ve been at this many dommes have told me that I have those qualities and were at least a little impressed with me, even though I don’t recall claiming to be any of those things. It’s worth repeating: show, don’t tell.

Well said, Richard.

a toy is not something this Mistress takes lightly ….a toy is to be valued and treasured …a toy is sacrificing for his Mistress he is willing to leave his comfort zone ..when my toy says thank you may I have another as his ass is red and there are tears in his eyes…to this Mistress he is showing me his love,loyalty,and sincer desire to please and serve me…I have had Dommes use there toys as mere objects as they ask me how can you love/treasure a mere toy….and I come right back at her with HOW CAN YOU NOT….a toy is to be valued and placed on a pedestal to be lovingly used and abused for my pure enjoyment sighhhhhhhhhh

What fun is dominating a weak willed person? Where’s the challenge, where’s the sacrifice, where’s the reward?

I like seeing my strong willed man submit, that’s what excites me the most!

P.S.—you AREN’T the FemDom Dear Abby?? All these months I’ve been wrong…:)

I’ve covered this issue a little bit on my weblog - especially in terms of subs who are just annoying and think that’s cool because it will make me want to hurt them, but there’s no eroticism in that.

I’ve had enough shaky and unstable men in my life, so I’m only attracted to guys who have it together and can be something of a dependable rock from which to grow.

The only use for a worm is to turn the soil.

I like that, Alexandra: “a dependable rock from which to grow”. Sometimes I think of a good sub as a rock that his domme can stand on, who lifts her higher.

Bravo Richard! I could never believe that a truly dominant woman would find pleasure in submission of a man of a weak mind or weak character. Power at Her feet! Man like us tend to grow stronger and not weaker through their submission. Now, as far as the estetics of it goes…… well, here some may argue that submission is a weakness. Let’s stay perverted! Jantar

I choose to submit - I am not forced to. In flight of fantasy of course, we imagine being overpowered by the will of a dominant woman, a stronger woman, a force beyond control. It is a natural power exchange that I willingly accept, happily, down on my knees.

You are quite right, Pet. The mind is the most powerful sex organ. I want words to make me wet.

I definitely agree with most of the comments here, referring to the dynamics of a s/d relationship. I am glad I’ve come across your site. Well worth reading!

I don’t see how being a submissive can make you stronger. You dominant women call a submissive male “a dependable rock from which to grow” or “a rock that his domme can stand on, which lifts her higher”. I understand how a submissive male bowing down to you would lift you up. But how can being dominated and treated like a “dependable rock” kept somone to grow stronger. I haven’t seen many dependable rocks flourish into butterflies or whatever you think will come from it. And some of you women also want a challenge. Ok, I get it. You want a guy who’s together and not a complete wimp, but will still bow down to you just because you’re an exception and you and only you can make him submit in this way. That’s asking for too much. How is a submissive guy supposed to let you know he feels that way. Are you just supposed to ignitiate it until we have to no choice but to let you rule us.

“ignitiate” - ?

The strength coming from the safe, caring fulfillment of a submissive person’s emotional needs.

Given blogs, forums, personal ads, munch groups, fetish parties it isn’t as if submissive men and dominant women lack for means of becoming aware of each other.