Oxymoron
» BDSM, D/s, S&M: Speculations
Attempts to achieve “consensual / nonconsensual” play space and the many ways masochist process pain often force us into awkward analogies and fretful ambiguities in attempting to capture the essence of what we feel and do.
Last night in bed it occurred to me that the many men who masturbate to fantasies of enforced chastity and orgasm denial are - in a very limited and silly sense - exemplars of these sort of seemingly oxymoronic states.
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No less so the men who actually buy chastity devices for themselves and then look for ways to “defeat” it.
The philosopher Bertrand Russell postulated that some seeming paradoxes of logic could be solved by adding, or rather, superimposing a layer on top of the existing set, which he called a “meta-set”. In your example, the desire for enforced chastity becomes the underlying set, while the sexual turn-on and masturbatory scene becomes the meta-set in which it takes place.
Yeah, not very sexy sounding, but it adds some perspective ;-)
Tom Allen
The Edge of Vanilla
Posted by: Tom Allen | June 21, 2007 11:21 AM
This is a common fantasy for which I get requests, with a major request being that we take it to the extreme and castrate my caller.
And I actually do enjoy the fantasy of castration, as, obviously do my callers. And, of course, when we get to the actual “removal” the caller has -as usually is the intent of any call— an orgasm.
Interestingly, I actually do have the occasional caller asking if I think that they should “really” get castrated. Which just amazes me…as you might imagine.
As I tell them: Well, if you cum thinking about being not to cum, then it probably is a pretty good indicator that you should hold on to the family jewels. Why they can’t figure this out for themselves is beyond me.
They do make smile and always keep me thinking, God bless their pea-picking little hearts.
Posted by: Angela St. Lawrence | June 21, 2007 6:04 PM