Rules for Voluntary Slaves

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I was skimming through lists of rules for consensual slavery. I may write about some of them later. I thought I’d try dashing out my own list.

My list ignores distinctions like whether the role is submissive or slavish. Lifestyle, intermittent or for play partners. I tried to concentrate it into what might be called core values. Or my sense of what is common to the full spectrum of D/s relationships.

I’m not claiming that my list is definitive (indeed I tried to keep it open ended). As physicists say it is a thought experiment.

Written in a F/m framework only because all of the others weren’t. Limited to ten rules by design. Order is arbitrary.

Your quibbles, additions are as always invited.

  1. A slave must be honest from the moment he begins communicating with a Domme. Never lie about relationships, experience level or anything else.
  2. A slave will seek to understand want he wants and needs and to know the difference between the two.
  3. A slave needs to realize some fantasies will never be more than just that. And that some of his fetishes may not strike a responsive chord within her.
  4. A slave has a duty to act as an intelligent human being.
  5. A slave repays a Domme’s attention with respect, humility and obedience. This is inherent in the nature of the relationship.
  6. A slave always communicates his feelings as clearly as possible.
  7. If the slave feels that his needs aren’t being met he will confess that respectfully without seeming to make demands.
  8. A slave will watch to see if his Domme is tired or not feeling well and focus on her comfort, not on having a session.
  9. A slave should never think of a Domme as a torture and humiliation machine. That is objectifying her.
  10. A slave will remember that D/s is a relationship between people. He will strive to never forget that the Domme is a human being. That regardless of the power relationship thoughtless behavior on his part can inflict emotional hurt on the other person.

Civility, honesty and honor sum it up.

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Richard, have I told you recently that I love you?

Very nicely done.


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I couldn’t have put it better. And reading it reminds me of the things you’ve done to make sure things are going well.

This kind of list would be what I call ‘ethics’. I’ve never really thought of a list of guidelines for dominants, aside from my own internal behaviour.

Hello Richard, Thank you for this site, I have found it to be most helpful. My partner has always had a female side, and fairly recently expressed a desire to be “owned” well, I have never considered myself domme, so right now im searching for information.

Thank you again, Ria.

Like many of the best things in life BDSM can be explored and expanded indefinitely.

Thanks for saying you found the site helpful, those are the kind of words that really brighten my day.

I really enjoyed your list. The really funny thing is that I have started a relationship with a submissive who seems to have these rules memorized!

I think they are what anyone who is really mindful of a dominant’s needs and who is honest and courteous will naturally adopt this kind of behavior.

Thank you for these guidelines, alltough I think they should be considered normal behaviour by anybody who would want to be a male sub. The thing is, as a pretty ‘vanilla’ Dom, I never found a website that has as much respect for my kind of lifestyle as I have for others. So I reffered my sub to your site and told him to take a look at your site and read your ‘rules’, but I think he pretty much lives by those rules anyway. By the way; we are just at the start of exploring the urophilia thing and found your site and the coomments very helpfull. One question remains: does it really makes a difference what you drink (like Cola Light, water or fruit drinks) for the taste of the urine? I would really like to make the first time as tasty and good as possible.. Since English is not my own language, I am sorry for any difficulties in reading this message.

The rules were meant to be very basic. After those it would depend on what the specific dominant wants and the submissive is able to agree to.

Taste of urine is like the taste of food: each person has his own likes and dislikes. Some people claim that artificial sweeteners don’t break down completely and sweeten the urine. I don’t really know.

The more water you drink the milder the taste will be. But then some of are excited if it tastes ‘bad.’

Thank you for the kind words about the site. We each have our own specific needs and I try my best to respect all of those.

Spoken like a true and nice sub, Richard! Alltough we were not really into sm in our roll plays, the stories on your site may have changed that a little bit. (For the better I guess) Keep up the good work!

Nicely crafted. i was actually searching the web for the ten precepts that governed the early years following America’s independence for my Humanities class( African americans and the Law.Your work has not quite fit my request but i admit it is clearly a work that command attention.

I’m new to this, and I want to know more. However, I am a sub-female, whatever it is called. Is there anything more to what a submissive should do besides these things? If anyone has anymore ideas of what submissives should do email me at thank you.

I found these rules quite interesting. Personally I recently discovered that I am a male sub, but never have explored this side of me. I found these rules are a part of what it means to be a sub. In essence a true sub would need to follow these or else stop considering themselves a sub.

Very nice and well thought out. I particularly like the way in which these “rules” are summarized at the end with the principles. My Mistress is very sure to receive this list and i hope that She enjoys them as well.

I have never done this kind of thing before, but was asked to do a goddess party and am not sure how to respond. I don’t know the specifics of said event and I would guess that’s what worries me the most. I’ve always been very kind and honest in life but never been involved in submission. What should I expect and is there grounds for me to respectively deny the offer? I would appreciate any and all insight and advice in regards to this. Thank you


i have been a real slave for a Mistress. i served dinner at a party, along with a female slave, for my Mistress and a few friends at Christmas.

Best advice is to relax, be yourself, and enjoy the experience and privilege of serving a Goddess.

Trust me, i’ve been there!

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