Slave and Partner

Sorry to be so quiet my readers, gentle and ungentle, having my beloved away for two months now diminishes even my libidinous imagination.

Though you might prompt something from me through the “Why Don’t You … ” links.

A comment on an entry did put one thing in focus for me.

With or without D/s my erotic and romantic instinctively inclines toward devotion and attentiveness. Not perfectly: I’m not a cardboard creature from an old movie.

My slavish aspect craves pain, humiliation, objectification, control: the usual catalog of masochistic desires.

But never guidance. I’m of an age where I have many settled if provisional premises that enable me to get through my days, earn a living, plan for the morrow. Altering any of them I might do in a discussion guided by reason. But intellectual change based on erotic need isn’t for me.

What a painfully sexless thing to say on a site devoted to D/s.

Another reason I can’t see myself in a lifestyle D/s relationship.

Years ago I ran across a dominant woman’s personal ad that said she was looking for a man who would be a total slave in certain circumstance but a competent, able masculine partner the rest of the time. Thought it a pity that she lived so far away.

One final edifying but unsexy note: a fair portion of what is written on the web from a context of total female domination is written by either women who profit from their internet slaves or men - pretending to be Dommes - who have never had a real F/m relationship.

Reality never compares to fantasy: put it in a dungeon.