The Search for Advice

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This is a tricky one. I had three thoughts in mind.

1) Alexandra and I have talked of allowing some sort of D/s to extend outside the usual strict confines.

2) Related but not identical is perhaps establishing multiple levels of D/s play.

3) I’d like to insure that when her dominance wants expression my submissiveness is available.

Off I went on a wild - well, no it wasn’t wild: it was often tedious - ride on Google.

The results?

1) As with gender people cling to simple binary experiences. It is or it isn’t. Subtle intermediary stages, indistinct shadings aren’t wanted. Be like me they seem to all say.

2) Perhaps instead of being my owner and goddess she could be my princess, my Lady or … something of yet undreamed. Having once suggested multiple collars as a defining object I could find an old entry of aspirant’s that hinted but did not quite capture that:

We have other rules pertaining to my collars as well. When Master places a collar on me I must always remember to thank her for it. When she removes it I must kiss her feet as a sign of my continuing subservience to her.

3) How about some affirmations or mental imagery?

I learned how a bad dominant can exploit affirmations in a fashion akin to POW brainwashing. That has nothing to do with my life with Alexandra.

Mental imagery: I shouldn’t have bothered. The images will be idiosyncratic to our relationship. I can’t get any from a stranger whose dominant may be nothing like her.

Ritual phrases: she’s agreed to supply some of those. This is so exciting it almost hurts.

There might be a fourth about protocol but until we are together again and decide to use the term otherwise I’ll confine that word to stricter D/s interaction (see Rules & Rituals).

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