Bondage Versus Submission
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I was skimming through one of the sites maintained by part-time wicked woman and always special person Angela St. Lawrence when I read:
“Would you like to come out of your cage for a while, pet?”
“Yes, Mistress Diana, I would like to come out of my cage.”
“You do know I am going to beat you, Matthew,” she said, swinging the cage door open. If it weren’t for the constraining ring, he would have lost control, orgasming without permission, just hearing those words from her lips.
These words of hers from a story fragment slapped me silly.
The nutters who think they want to be locked into cramped caged for improbable lengths of time have given reasonable consensual slave caging a bad name.
How often I used to envy aspirant
When once again I began to move inside her she simply said “That’s enough” and pushed me away. “Pee if you need to and then get into the cage.” (photos)
Had we a cage and Alexandra to put me in it I think I’d feel owned and serene.
That a real slave (or submissive person) shouldn’t need bondage is another of those antique false dichotomies you see in some debates among WIITWD folk. In voluntary slavery bondage isn’t a way of preventing the “inferior” partner from fleeing. Though restraints may protect him or her from making unsafe movements during strenuous physical play.
Collars, cuffs, chains and the like make tangible the exchange of power. I can’t say what they mean to a dominant, for a submissive person like myself they are adornments symbolizing the role of being her property.
Isn’t this how some of the men who wear them feel about chastity devices?
Alexandra was put off by bondage at first. Then she saw in my eyes what bonds do to my mind. If you need an image you might think of them as akin to a mandala used to focus meditation.
In binding me she isn’t taking something away from me. It is a gift she gives me helping me feel that I’m hers to do with as she will. Sometimes I’m knocked into deepest surrender. Other times it is as if I’m a little boy happy with a treat. Mostly my response is a mix of both.
I hope my gratitude is an adequate reward for her understanding.
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My pet and I are very happy with the large dog cage I bought. It isn’t ideal, but it works very well. I do still need to buy some foam for the floor but in the meantime I send him in with a blanket.
I may someday acquire a more ideal cage (the price jump is staggering; $130 for a good dog cage; $500-$800 for a human one). For me this would be something with bars spaced further apart for petting, etc., and perhaps a food slot through which to slide his dish.
I do not use the cage to punish him but rather have followed the rules that came with the crate, which encourage the dog to think of it as a safe and not unpleasant place to be. It can get him out of the way; give him someplace quiet to sleep or play; and just give him someplace to be a puppy. He looks adorable in it and I was so very happy the first time he went in and pulled the door shut behind him.
This last week he was afraid someone else had used his cage and he became very upset; I was sorry for his distress but encouraged to learn that the cage was a place he felt safe.
Posted by: R | September 15, 2006 5:07 PM
One of the reasons that it is always a delight to hear from you is that you really understand.
Posted by: Richard | September 15, 2006 5:30 PM