Chastely Erotic

A fantasy that has at times consumes me:

To have at one breast my beloved spouse—and at the other our recently-birthed daughter.

I find this both very maternal and very spiritual.

Of course I am not married nor have I given birth as of yet. Women who’ve had children might find the idea repugnant.

But the idea of even sex being superceded by this incredible —dare I say it?— sacrament of communion, this total whole-ness of womanhood —all that physically and emotionally defines her at her deepest level— is an ever-occuring theme I go back to.

Maybe it’s because my breasts aren’t my most erogenous zone (as I actually thrill much more to touches on the neck, back, shouders) that I find this imagined scene so powerful and non-sexual.

I do believe that what started me thinking in this direction started with the movie, THE GOOD MOTHER, a simply divine meditation on purity and those the emotionally-disfigured who must destroy what they cannot understand nor attain.

~Angela

The image through me at first but it wasn’t too hard to shift my perspective and see the maternal beauty in the image.

Chastity devices? Hell yes! I know about these things as I have been hold in chastity for a little more than five years. I am a true slave and has been so since I was about 17. Sorry I have to leave but will continue this very soon…..

I completely understand the above fantasy. Maternal feelings are very strong. And as much as I couldn’t do most of what my husband does, in some ways I care for him just as I take care of my children. To have maternal love be a part of what you feel in romantic love or love for your SO, makes perfect sense to me. When we feel maternal love all women, no matter how submissive are dominant. Maternal love means fighting for what is best for that child or man or woman. This makes sense to me. Not sure if it will to anyone else. :)

Dave, always happy to have people share their experiences.

Meri,

What you describe pretty much fits all that my Momma did for me when I was growing up. And Alexandra always wants to do whatever is best for me.

Thanks.

Continuation: My chastity started as part of a punishment. I had been very disobedient and complete out off my when I discovered that my Mistress (we had played with sm and dominance for a while)and at that time also girlfriend actually had sex with one of her female friends. I made some kind of scene and a lot of yelling and crying. We split, angry and sad both of us. But a few days later she contacted me and suggested that we continued to see each other but on completely other basis. I would have to be her real slave, with practically no rights and I was to live under strict discipline from both her and her girlfriend. I was not ready, and asked if I could get some time to consider it, she agreed to give me 24 hours to decide my answer. A few hours later I got a mail from with her demands. First I would have to go through a period of punishment and basic slavetraining. The letter did not say how long that period would last, but she said that I would be severity punished for any disobedience. All punishments would be with either riding crop, cane or both. In my punishment period I would not be allowed any sex for my pleasure. But was to please and serve my Mistresses in every way they demanded. Later I would be allowed to come when I had deserved it

My wife and I have toyed with “forced” chastity for about two years. In September we had a heart-to-heart discussion about her controlling my orgasms. After 30 years of marriage the spice had gone out of our sexlife and she was willing to try something new to make our bedroom someplace other than where we slept. I purchased a CB-2000 chastity device and we tried it over a weekend. She had a little difficulty initially with the whole idea of denying me sex (so deep is the passiviness of female sexuality) that even in play she had issues. We have expanded my chastity time to a week at a time now and I am rewarded with sex Sunday mornings if I have been good. I will tell you that knowing that sex a privilidge and not a right has changed my attitude towards my wife…something that she has embraced. She demands, and gets a long (30-60 minute) backrub or footrub every evening at bedtime. The sex has been stellar when she has allowed it. I guess our bottom line is that it has taken some time to get accustomed to this lifestyle, but in the short-term (Sept-Nov), it has worked for us.

It sometimes seems like one of the secrets of orgasm control is that it is often used to energize the man’s sexuality. Not kill it.