The Psychology of Enforced Chastity

Several days ago I wrote an entry expressing curiosity that it has often been said that some men become less loving and attentive unless deprived of an orgasm (for considerably varying lengths of times according to the gossip of the net from a few days to several months).

I took the conversation elsewhere and thought I’d share with you small slivers of the more interesting responses.

Here’s one side of orgasm denial I’d never considered.

It has overtones of D/s that make it in some ways very “safe” for people who consider themselves to be mainly vanilla.

That people who don’t really do BDSM as such practice it would explain why those not inexpensive CB-3000s sell so well.

A chastity subculture? And one mostly influenced by “Dr.” John Gray of Mars & Venus fame?

I think that the chastity subculture has developed their own myths and dogma, and this is just one of the concepts that surfaces. I think it stems from the idea that after an orgasm, a man just wants to roll over and go to sleep.

From soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm.femdom.

Hooray for Atheism Dept.

While the above might be an ancient and archaic view of rudiments of religion affecting human sexual development, I think for some men there is still an element of viewing this drive for orgasm (in the traditional male stereotype) as been a fundamental ‘male weakness’ rather than a ‘male strength’.

A report of a man who was cured of an unhealthy kink via orgasm denial:

The device used was a rather wickedly uncomfortable one, so that any online activity that browsed bestiality sites became painful and unsatisfying. The poor fellow phoned me once in misery because he’d just driven along the highway and grown hard, in his device, at the sight of a mare urinating in a field; he berated himself, breaking down over the phone, telling himself and Me that he was sick and perverted and that no normal man would have responded the same way. I quickly reminded him that since he’d spent the last 18 months of his life jacking off to the imagery of horses online, the conditioning wasn’t really so remarkable or far fetched.

To me the whole thing sounds far-fetched but it is a nutty world, isn’t it?

And my original speculation that some men may misbehave after a period of mandatory chastity because they want their orgasms controlled.

So no I don’t see a submissive becoming less attentive if o/d wasn’t a mandatory act, but I can see it happening for those who *need* that form of control.

From Collar Chat.

My original entry: The Mystery of Orgasm Denial.