Duration of Our BDSM Play
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I've sometimes thought of increasing the duration of D/s play as a way of expanding and deepening our experience and enjoyment of our roles.
Last night I expressed envy of a couple that had been at it for four hours and stopped only because they each had a demanding workday in the morning. Alexandra told me that we'd recently played for four hours.
I can't believe this. Not in the sense that I think she's being untruthful. My own subjective experience of our evenings is that we do maybe three or four different things lasting for about fifteen minutes.
I guess that when I act as her slave my higher brain functions are even more suppressed than I realized.
Comments
I recently met a beautiful, submissive lady and we have arranged to meet for our first BDSM session in a few weeks. Until that time we are chatting online and on the phone daily. How long should we plan for this first time to be? First for both of us, btw.
Posted by: Warpcore Breach | August 11, 2007 11:36 AM
There isn’t any magic number.
Uncertainty, confusion or the events of the day before you get together may make for a session shorter than you’d planned. Or enthusiasm cause the two of you to continue longer than you expected.
Just relax, keep your expectations open, options flexible and try to have fun with each other.
Do take time to talk after it is over. Make sure neither of you feel any guilt. Be honest about anything that didn’t work for either of you.
Posted by: Richard | August 11, 2007 12:55 PM