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Recently in writing of some of her images of me Alexandra wrote:
He looked so deliciously filthy with his white slave attire collecting the dirt from my wake.
This was an allusion to some suggestions I’d made very early on about slave clothing.
We’d been talking. Or possibly I’d been talking. You may thing Alexandra is lucky to have a pet whose mind is forever teeming with new ideas. I know I’m lucky to have someone who doesn’t see this constant flow of fantasies and possibilities challenging (in the invidious sense) or annoying.
Anyway the possibility of doing D/s on more than one level was something we’d discussed from the beginning. Both of us comparative novices it wasn’t always easy to discern which ideas might be worth exploring. And the means whereby to make them workable.
Strict Goddess and slave protocol doesn’t require more than goodwill, commonsense and communication.
But what about something where the power exchange was in place but very lightly, maybe only implicitly. She would be the boss but there’d be more flexibility than in our usual scenes.
It wasn’t clear in conception. Mostly a thought experiment. Maybe I’d wear a collar but a different one. One of my notions was of a slave or servant outfit. A white t-shirt and short pants perhaps?
I remember when the idea of a slave uniform first hit me. I’d been exchanging emails with a guy who was a shoe fanatic. But a boring one. He didn’t cause me to see the erotic power of footwear as Alexandra would.
He sent me a link to sandals that styled after those of the ancient Romans. Slave sandals was my first thought. Only to be worn when acting as a slave. Maybe with a tunic.
The idea of shabby clothes really appealed to me. And outfit so ragged that it denoted low status. This pretty much slid out of my mind until Alexandra and I started talking.
I’d never given thought to what I might wear during BDSM. A loincloth of the like was an image in some of my earliest fantasies. Can’t say why. Perhaps somehow having my penis hidden seemed appropriate: it was insignificant.
Mostly I saw myself - aside from chains and cuffs - nude. That wasn’t about power exchange. My body was kept available for whatever torments my owner might wish to inflict.
Alexandra - and this seems to be true of almost all dominants - prefers me naked. I guess the lack of clothing is a form of vulnerability. I can capture this indirectly having never associated nudity with vulnerability (aside from those inevitable dreams of finding yourself nude in church).
So naked I am. It never troubles me though the uneven warmth of my house is a nuisance. The living room is drafty and a quick rush of cool air has threatened to wake me up from the mood as it were. But hasn’t to date.
I do wonder though what others may have found themselves wearing as a sort of slave attire. Dresses and feminizing outfits aside. I know that is commonplace but will never be part of our relationship. Or if it hasn’t been something you’ve done or had someone do is there some as yet unrealized use of clothing in BDSM you’ve thought of?
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I’ll get you a white slave outfit as soon as we’re together. I think it will be an enriching option to have.
I do hope we will be able to get you to be naked at the drop of a hat, because that’s how it has to be for me. How can you resist being naked for me? ;)
I’m also aware that I need to think about factors such as the temperature and possible social intrusions so maybe I’ll limit it to the bedroom, at least at first.
Posted by: Alexandra | January 21, 2007 12:23 PM
I’m not sure if the temperature has ever really mattered. But it might have been an unconscious distraction.
I only just noticed the draft in the living room and can probably fix that easily enough by adding some insulation to the door.
Posted by: Richard | January 21, 2007 12:35 PM
Actually, one of the female supremacy churches I’ve read about on your site sells clothing intended for slaves. (They also sell dresses and headdresses for the female supremacists.)
A quick search turned them up: it’s Goddessclub.com . They sell loincloths in either Roman/Egyptian (esque) style. Headcloths available in the Egyptian style.
This may not (probably is not) what you and Alexandra are looking for. But it does underline the point that there are other people out there who want slave uniforms, other than that old hackneyed French maid outfit.
On the subject of which, another site you reference (Mistress 160) includes a young man in such a French maid outfit. I am highly prejudiced against French maid outfits for several reasons. But she almost gets me to understand the appeal. Which would probably delight my pet, who really enjoys dressing.
Posted by: R | January 21, 2007 5:02 PM
Thanks. That was interesting to see. Though the white short jeans seemed good enough to me (pity neither of us know how to sew).
I’m really glad Mistress 160 started a blog. You know I’m no fan of that sort of thing but she and solipsist have a great relationship so I have no problem putting my prejudices aside when I read her.
Posted by: Richard | January 21, 2007 5:08 PM
Certain fashion elements can have servant connotations. Short jackets or bow ties on men, for instance.
Alternately, certain clothing designers for gay men have lots of very revealing designs for me. Marc Ouest, for instance.
In a sense, any clothing could serve the same purpose, if you imbue them with the right psychological weight. Pick an outfit, wear it only on special occasions, make putting it on and taking it off part of the ritual, and keep it stored in a particular place in a particular container when not wearing it.
Posted by: Peter Tupper | January 22, 2007 1:55 AM
Fashion depends so much on your individual referents. The only short jacket I ever wore was designed for police officers so I tend to think of them as macho. Bow ties make me think of nerdy guys like George Will.
That anything could be used if restricted in context or invested with ritual is a good point.
One of the reasons I thought of a white shirt and short jeans aside from social invisibility is that I normally never wear white (and there’s the implication of purity in white).
Posted by: Richard | January 22, 2007 8:29 AM
Nudity does the job very well. When I visit my mistress I sometimes excuse myself to go to the bathroom, and come out naked. Other times she tells me to take off my clothes at a certain point. I do sometimes get cold in her flat, but I enjoy the sense of being on display, my level of arousal apparent at all times, and accessible to her. She likes to flick my stiff member from time to time as a way of acknowledging my condition.
Wearing her panties, or a speedo would also be effective as nothing is hidden so much as bulgingly obvious.There are good reasons for an outfit, as ritual is a real part of all this. Even forced nudity is a ritual, however.
I think she enjoys being able to mount me anytime she pleases. We can be having wine and cheese in her kitchen and she’ll tease me hard with her boots, then get up from her chair and sit down on my lap. No muss no fuss.
Posted by: alizarin55 | July 21, 2009 5:39 PM