Paradox of Submission
» D/s Practices
It was surprisingly hard to find something not focused on S&M so I went with an old favorite. By Laurent Lebeau (does anybody know anything about him?)whose illustrations are usually scenes of devotion and pet play.
That surrender is a gift that I make to Alexandra doesn’t trouble me. But some people make a pointless paradox of consensual power exchange.
Every now and then some guy will wander onto an online forum and announce to the world that all Masters and Mistresses are shams. A dominant can do anything to a submissive person without their consent. So all D/s is fakery.
This is usually followed by the assertion that it is the bottoms that are on top.
Are you submissive?
Am I submissive?
Is the sissy maid down the block submissive?
Memorizing dictionary definitions isn’t the same thing as understanding. But it gives frustrates something to do with their time. Perhaps these men are frustrated by the abolition of chattel slavery.
In the D/s context I see submission as the voluntary offering of adoration (and respect but I want to keep this note short and focused).
Whether the top / bottom, Mistress / slave relationship is defined only by the feelings of the two people involved.
Real human lives aren’t found in dictionaries.
Comments
This is similar to the chastity fanatics who claim to be kept in “permanent” or “real” chastity… and that those with a plastic CB3000 are merely playing, although everyone seems to ignore the fact that two minutes with a Dremel would show the impermanence of any device.
Look, I think that the “Gor-eans” (by way of example) are way over the top, but I would never drop into a Gor forum and accuse them of being overgrown D&D players or otherwise inauthentic. I squick a bit at the corps of cuckoled sissies who frequent the various chastity groups, but I don’t harangue them about their lingeries choice.
One doesn’t need to like or appreciate a fetish in order to be understanding, if not respectful.
Why can’t the know-it-alls just shut the hell up and let people enjoy their play?
Tom Allen The Edge of Vanilla
Posted by: Tom Allen | November 27, 2006 5:50 PM
I hate it when people try to stereotype a fetish and say you are not a true submissive unless you give yourself totally. For example: I accept that my Mistress has extra marital sex with others, straight, loving, mutual sex that she does not afford me, but I will not allow her to bring these men into our marital bed and make love to her while I am present, does that make me unsubmissive, when you consider that I don’t actually want her to have sex with other people and I only put up with it because I would rather have her do that than leave me I say no, I am very submissive, it hurts when she cheats on me but I want her to be happy and that makes her happy.
Posted by: Lolly's bitch | August 21, 2007 9:25 PM
Myself, I’d rather be left or leave myself. But only you can decide what is best for you. I hope everything works out.
Posted by: Richard | August 22, 2007 11:52 AM
There are girls who still get down on their knees???
Posted by: vk2dxx | September 27, 2007 3:18 AM
Apparently Lolly’s girl missed the point…are we so androgynous now that we have to get down on all four knees and buy each other dinner???
Posted by: vk2dxx | September 27, 2007 4:56 AM
Hell…I’ll but Lolly and her boyfriend’s dinner in Calabash. Just contact my parents in Raleigh…
Posted by: Anonymous | September 27, 2007 4:59 AM