Communicating Kinks
» Emotional Health
Some desires can be hard to communicate or understand. Art by Waldo
A post on soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm:
I’m not into the pretend I don’t want to do it and pretend you’re going to force me to, OR I really do not want this, tough shit I’m going to do it any way….. kinks.
If he can’t fess up to wanting something, he’s not getting it. If he fesses up to wanting something that was obviously hard for him to fess up to, I’m going to make sure it happens if at all possible.
I see this as a rewards thing.
We reward each other by sharing our lives and kink, and reward each other by talking honestly about *everythng* and by making every possible effort not to limit each other.
It’s all going to be fun, even if he doesn’t like something right at a particular moment in time.
