Femdom Erotica and Emotional Health
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I posted my note about the possible untoward effects of “Femdom porn” in a few venues.
One consistent remark often posed as a question was:
How does this differ from men who become addicted to looking at Playboy centerfolds?
In terms of the ‘exploitation’ of women by focusing on certain erotic aspects of womanhood that the viewer isn’t likely to actually experience it is pretty similar. Not that I’m really persuaded by the feminist arguments against that kind of sexploitation pop culture.
There is a crucial difference.
The men who admire pin-ups meet and deal with women of only ordinary glamour everyday: they are coworkers, neighbors, classmates. This keeps them attached to reality. A man who can only be happy with the Playmate of the Year - unless he is wealthy or otherwise specially blessed - has a problem. But he’s just a freakish fool who needs help.
A man who discovers his need for a dominant, sadistic woman may only see them in professionally created erotica. The fierce or arctic dominatrices he sees online are his only experience of a dominant female.
When he reaches out and starts replying to profiles and personals his expectations have been defined by heartless bitches of fantasy. His assumption is that they want only a mere worm they can crush beneath their heels. And so trapped by his fantasies that most of his offers to do “anything” are really demands to get what he wants.
That is the important distinction.
Oddly enough some newly dominant women learn about female domination this way and spend a time feeling that they should be living up to those images.
Not that I think these sites should be suppressed or are uniquely bad. They are just obstacles that impede some who hope for F/m play or lifestyle.
Just more cultural pollution.
