Submissive Men as Prey

There is so much free porn on the web, so many femdom (pro and not) blogs, so much discussion, so much everything that it is hard for me to believe that any person would actually send money just for the idea that someone is dominating them.

Maybe some guys kink on giving money helplessly to a stranger. I don’t know.

I don’t really have a problem with people paying for sex or related services. If they’re getting what they want, then bully of them. But if people do it in a stupid way that doesn’t get them what they want…my sympathy is, honestly, limited.

When I first opened my used bookshop I was quickly flabbergasted by how often even literate people don’t have skills for simple tasks like looking for books in a small shop even when they are carefully organized. As a seller of books online I see innumerable examples of people who pay more for a book than they need to because they either don’t know how to search or their assumptions blind them.

So I’m sure lots of the most valuable information is invisible to lots of people. (Partly because the porn sites are so good at flummoxing Google.)

There are able money mistresses and men who enjoy financial domination without ruining themselves.

My own sympathy is pretty limited at times. I’m just in a kind mood today. It is probably that I’m more disgusted by exploitation than sympathetic to the exploited.

It all comes back to desperation I fear.

The fact that there are guys willing to do this allows more women to do the same.

Simple economics. Supply and demand.

Sometimes I wonder if some of these men have a need to be exploited like that too. No question, there are women (domme’s or not) who are only interested in men (submissive or not) based on their bank accounts or resumes. But my point is people don’t do things unless they work or meet some need on some level. The male who empties his wallet for those “wanna-be-dommes” who in return do not provide a quality service either a) has no clue about what a D/s exchange involves; or b)doesn’t care to engage in such a process and somehow receives satisfaction from throwing money around haphazzardly. I never really understood the whole “financial domination” kink. I do however, think it’s a sad state when a person admits they are using the BDSM realm as a guise for meeting/trapping some wealthy sub who will think nothing of funding their every whim.

I am and have always been attracted to dominate women. But when the dom is in it for the money its a joke.I personaly cant see a woman as superior so long as she needs a man money to get by. When a man enters into a relatoinship. With a woman where he is the dom you dont hear about her paying him.A femdom can think she is in charge all she wants but if she is being paid then she is not the boss she is just pretending to be in control because thats what her BOSS has paid her to do. I cant see those so called femdoms as much different from anyone else in the adult sex industry. No judgments on them do what you do people. Im just saying that if you call your self a femdom and your life is supported by mens momey i think your fooling yourself i think you are a poser.

It isn’t about superiority. It is about giving and getting pleasure. Some men for various reasons pay to get their erotic needs met. And there are women who do a good job of satisfying their clients. There’s no shame at all in that.

smiles I am a Money Domme. I would like to comment on, as many fake Money Dommes as there is, there is just as many fake money subs…I agree that in this day and age, with the internet, this particual fetish is being abused. I have worked months with one “money” slave before ever getting a dime…I believe in communication and always take a great deal of time getting to know My sub, getting into his head to understand his “triggers” and what he needs. Handing over money is easy, taking on a “true” money slave is a lot of work…if you’re doing it right! I have spent/wasted a lot of My time getting to know a sub and then finding out he just wanted to “talk” about it…many money dommes disagree with Me, but this fetish is about the mind f$$k, not about just taking the money…that requires no work, no thought and is the furthest thing from true Financial Domination there is…it’s like comparing apples to oranges. I have also corresponded with money slaves, and helped them with what they were seeking and what to watch out for as well as what to look for….all for no “tribute” so to speak…why? because I love this fetish (being a control freak & all, LOL) and it’s being ruined for those who TRULY desire it. Communication, communication, communication…it’s the key to this fetish…the money comes later!

I fear online domination is being greatly damaged by the unscrupulous women who see it as an effortless way to make a buck. They will fail of course but still have negative effects.

Femdom is a joke, innate Dommes see nothing of interest, Dommes and subs will go without many until death.

Whatever your point is, you aren’t doing a good job of making it.

Almost been there done that. i was overwhelmed and it was a team effort. i was ever the supportive one and all the while felt the gates would come crashing. She and i had a major battle over living arrangements in MY house. She has moved on to practice more deception but She was no Domme - she only played one occasionally. Bye Bye Domme and i am all the smarter and safer. We do learn best from our mistakes - they are real!

Yanno..I’m about tired of all the males who constantly whine about financial dommes!! First of all, there would be no such ‘domme’ were it not for all those males who seek to be used as human atms, piggy banks, and wallets! It’s an objectification fetish no less genuine and real as those who want to be objectified as human toilets, ashtrays, footstools, etc..and none of you pigs whine or squeal about THOSE kinds of fetishes!! And secondly, why do I NEVER hear ANY male whining about how many and how long males have been using women and their flesh to make millions by objectifying them??? Hugh Hefner being the prime example of many pornpigs! Get a job, and spoil a woman instead of coming across like a pompous pig who can’t afford to!! Even Onassis made a statement that were it not for women, money would have NO value. Seems to me, the only males who don’t want to or don’t enjoy spoiling and pampering women are either gay or broke!!!

I am not explicitly a money Domme but some men do actually want to be dominated online and send money for. It is a fetish, a kink. I have never encountered someone who is willing to give all their money away except for the fantasists. They are saying it to imagine their own fantasy, it does not happen in reality.

I’ve known people who genuinely enjoy financial D/s from both sides of the exchange. Here I’m bitching about women who have no gift or real inclination and make a feeble pass at acting like one hoping for an easy and lazy source of money and don’t give good value for the money.

I am on the fence here see, I had, have a blackmail fetish i wish for that, but, I cant bring myself into going ahead with it…

I can see why ppl do this, for subs its easy way to allow to be controled, for the dom she need buy little or no equipment but still look and act like a true lifestyle dom.

I dont agree on vanilla girls aacting like pro-amatur4 doms for wads of cash. my girl is bossy and demanding controling and hurtful in private, yet id not pay her 300 a hour for it. lol