Superior Tops & Inferior Bottoms

Mad, bad and dangerous to know:

Basically this guy is claiming that dominants need to be “superior” to their charges, such that a slave feels “he’s always in my head,” etc. He defended “manipulation” and “opaqueness” on the part of the Master (hiding his intent from the slave, basically, because he knows better) while of course “transparency” in all things is required of the slave.

Trinity, Let Them Eat Pro-SM Feminist Safe Spaces: Superiority

You see not completely dissimilar notions from some of the FLR/LFA bloggers - mostly the guys - but I don’t feel like ragging on them this afternoon. And I’ve seen this species of wicked cant from a few Goreans (not to smear the Fanboys of Gor as a whole).

It does provoke a visceral response doesn’t it?

You can’t help but wonder about the supposedly inferior person. Not just what prompts internalizing feelings of inferiority. As with people who turn over the total management of their lives to a dominant: what becomes of them if they are suddenly alone in the world?

What the heck constitutes superiority?

Some people might say intelligence. An elastic quality to say the least.

• I don’t know how many people pay attention to IQ scores nowadays.
• Grades in school have much to do with discipline.
• Intuition and empathy each play a role in the mind’s ability to make sense of experience.
• And there’s the dreadful confounding of the word intellectual with intelligence. The former is more an acquiring of kinds of data and manipulating it with words. Clarity, understanding and intelligibility aren’t requirements.
• Plato I think may have called it the ability to have the right opinion.

(Not foolish enough to roll my own definition.)

Whatever intelligence may be I do think of it as an attribute I require for a relationship.. (Already tried beautiful but dumb.)

In my personal life it is engaging me in enjoyable conversations. Conversations we’ll have often for the rest of our shared lives.

• The masochist needs for her - I feel like sticking with one pronoun today, ok? - enjoy hurting me.
• The slavish guy needs for her to enjoy having power over me.
• The submissive lover needs her pleasure in accepting my adoration.

(Sure I want her to be risk aware and competent but I’m trying to stick to a minimal core.)

Other kinds of presumed superiority?

Plenty of people have skills, talents and insights that I never will. I admire them for that but don’t feel they are my betters. Sometimes I’m lucky enough to benefit from their abilities.

Many of my friends live their lives more wisely. I just wish their attributes could be had through blood transfusion.

Many women and men are stronger but I go through life without a fixation on bodybuilders or powerlifters.

Some sad souls seem to equate wealth with superiority. Bah!

A top who requires validation from some imagined objective superiority inspires only laughter and contempt.

There is a special subgroup of superiority / inferiority fans.

I have read a few gay, ahem, masters write of using brainwashing to induce a literal belief in their superiority and the slave’s inferiority.

To be honest I can wank to that. But would rather have a bullet clean through my brain than be turned into an emotional cripple.

Hopefully these demented theoreticians of power exchange have little influence. None would be best but …

(Written for my own entertainment. Your amusement not guaranteed. Indignant people need not apply.)