Fetishes: About the Checklist
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An email makes me feel that I should give context to the checklist that I sent Alexandra months ago.
We’d known each other virtually via forums and email for several years. As my last relationship was crumbling we started emailing each other daily. We’d long known we had complementary feelings about many things, liked and esteemed each other.
In the back of both our minds we’d wondered what it would be like if we met. Distance alone made that seem unlikely.
In our emails we discovered that her sexuality included dominance and that I’d long had D/s and S&M fantasies that I’d only explored lightly. Eventually it seemed that the Atlantic Ocean might not be an impassable barrier.
I sent her some very long emails outlining my sadomasochistic side. The checklist was surely the longest of them. Seemed a handy way of showing enthusiasms and limitations. The checklist was only one of many emails we exchanged last fall.
I’m not fond of instant messaging. Alexandra is, so I installed Yahoo Messenger and we chatted most days for at least two hours. Eventually we started chatting on the phone.
My looking back at the checklist will make for many entries. It entertains me to see what I said and compare my feelings now that reality has supplanted fantasy.
But the list was just one tool among many of communicating with someone in another part of the world.
Written hurriedly since I’ll be chatting with her shortly.
Since the lists draw no comments they may bore you but I type this stuff for my own pleasure.
Comments
Richard, I admire your courage in articulating your thoughts and feelings as they are formulated in your experiences.
Ms. Christine
Posted by: Contradiction | June 19, 2005 10:00 PM
Don’t know that I can claim much courage.
I’m just hoping that in working out the details that Alexandra and I can find as much fulfillment as possible.
Posted by: Richard | June 20, 2005 7:02 AM
Is there such thing as a chalk or powder fetish?
Posted by: domino | November 7, 2005 3:45 AM
Eating chalk? Being sprinkled with baby powder? Not sure what you are imagining happening.
Posted by: Richard | November 7, 2005 7:11 AM
To Domino and Richard, about the chalk and powder fetish. I actually found this website by wanting to know the same thing, is there a chalk or powder fetish? The thing with me is, I love to smother myself in powder and I love writing with chalk. Just the feel of the it on my skin makes me feel someway that I can’t descrbe. It’s not a sexual feeling at all though. Luckily I’m a woman that can wear powder makeup. Maybe it’s the feeling of softness on the skin. When my kids play in their sandbox I just sit outside of it and squeeze sand between my fingers. I don’t get it either. But I can say that it’s not a sexual feeling. I told my mother about it and she explained to me that she used to just smother me in baby powder when I was little because I loved it then too. Anyone else out there that has the same feeling about powders or chalk?
Posted by: Nicole | December 4, 2005 12:55 PM
When you connect it to something like baby powder I can see the appeal. When I think of chalk the only thing that comes to mind is thank god I’m not in school anymore.
Couldn’t guess how many people share the passion. Google seems to be sending folks so inclined here so maybe more of them will share their feelings.
Posted by: Richard | December 4, 2005 4:47 PM
A category “Housework” or “Forced Housework” would be fine. Doing housework chores as part of the D/s relationship seem to be a fetish for many. It also have the added interesting element that it fills even the most tedious repetitive chore with erotic content!
Posted by: John Handy | June 28, 2006 4:37 AM
This checklist wasn’t meant to be universal.
It was me explaining myself to Alexandra. Housework isn’t one of my fetishes so I didn’t add it.
Each to their own erotic pleasures.
Posted by: Richard | July 8, 2006 7:07 AM
I came here for powder fetish also, its a new thing ive dicovered i had, and wanted to see if anyone else shared it, nice to know im not too weird. mmm powder
Posted by: nevAeh | October 30, 2006 12:11 AM
yes im the same way i love the scent of baby powders and the feeling its not a sexual feelin for me either i just like the scent and touch, my mother told me when i was younger i used to play in the baby powders so it might stem from childhood the powders may represent the feelin of missing my childhood..idk i love powders lol
Posted by: layiah | March 30, 2009 10:47 PM