Fetishes: C
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Continuing down the checklist I sent Alexandra before we met.
Cages, being caged.
Yes. (+)
Probably needs about ten plus signs. Pity they are so expensive. Being bound by iron bars is my most fundamental image of helplessness.
Caning: thwhap!
My feelings about that thwhap, how to explain them. Pain and joy meet. Not that I felt joy when she used the cane on me. Sadly I found the after effect of the canes so physically traumatic I had to ask her to not use them so much. You have no idea with what regret I made that request. This is partly what motivated to buy the quirts and other harsh leather toys. .
She enjoys beating me in the front. This was a shock. I’ve always thought of being hit in the front as the worst sort of punishment. She likes watching my response. When Alexandra goes fully into her own emotional space she can be scary. That is wonderful in recollection. At the time the look in her eyes locks me to the floor. I cringe before her seemingly limitless power.
Groveling before an angry Goddess is terrifying an beautiful.
Castration fantasy: never had one.
Still haven’t.
Catheterization: somewhere between probably not, no idea. (-)
I do know it would hurt but it just doesn’t register with me. Possibly it has more to do with urine control than pain.
Chains: yes.
Not that exciting for her.
When I visualized myself as a slave often I thought of the cuffs and collars as the only clothing I’d be allowed. Chains would destroy my freedom and check my movements. Being physically unable to resist or escape will always move me deeply.
Chamber-pot use: with regular partner only.
As I noted earlier being merely pissed on doesn’t evoke that much in me. Being repeatedly used as a human toilet does. I suspect my reticent response here was a fear she’d think me an awful pervert.
Without worship enforced chastity seems boring. My only interest it trying it would be to enable each of us to drop more readily into our D/s roles. Because it would be invisible constant bondage even when I was away from her. I would not want a relationship rooted in orgasm denial. Only if it would enhance our relationship would it be worth exploring.Chastity belts: 30 days would probably be my max (not ejaculating regularly is physically unhealthy). Idea of enforced chastity with body worship, sexual servicing is a very powerful image for me.
Choking: a gentle hint of the threat with the fingers OK but not the real thing.
It is knowing she has the power.
Closets (being restrained within): yes.
Seems a bit terrible to me. Which is why it might be worth exploring. While real closets would work it is best seen as a symbol of confinement and visual limitation.
Clothespins: yes, need to develop tolerance. (Intensity varies with amount of skin held by pin.)
The cheap ones I bought haven’t proved that demanding or painful. Until she took them off. She’s made good use of them. Maybe I’ll look for stronger ones.
Cock Torture (clips, clothespins) yes. Weights on foreskin: yes.
Foreskin manipulation is the kind of thing that makes me want to retreat into a childlike space. There’s no denying that be it with fingers, fingernails or weights the act evokes strong feeling of submission and helplessness.
Cock whipping, crushing: kind of frightening but yes.
Crushing hasn’t been a problem. Put her foot on my penis and I’m just a helpless little beggar.
She’s whipped my cock a little bit. I have a dim memory of trying to lick shoes that weren’t there. Of the whipping making my tongue reach out, beyond my control.
Corsets: only on you if you like to wear them.
See below.
Crossdressing: no.
Feminization is something neither of us enjoy.
Cuffs (ankle and wrist): yes.
Even if they aren’t connected to anything having cuffs and collars on my body and knowing they might be has a strong symbolic effect on me. I treasure that effect.
Cutting: probably not.
I’ve come to appreciate the erotic thrill of this. But I don’ t see it as something she would enjoy. I’d call my current response indifferent.
Alexandra’s Fetish Alphabet: C
Comments
Your statement of “Caning: thwhap! Sadly I found the after effect of the canes so physically traumatic I had to ask her to not use them so much.”
made me think of one time that I commened on that type of thougth with my wife. It cost me an extra 12 across the thighs and an hour with the dime being held to the wall with my nose and a nickle on each outstreached hand with a promise of 24 more if any fell for complaining. She rightfully reminded me that this whole thing was my idea origionally. Be very carfeful of what you ask for, as you might just get it. ;-)
Posted by: subhubby | May 31, 2005 5:17 PM
I’ve never been able to fully sort out in my mind what was going on with the cane. Asking her to moderate the use of them was very horrible for me. I had to exert myself to be honest about it.
Part of me adored the harshness but I could tell that at times I was about to leave slave space.
We’re planning on exploring my ability to handle pain.
We’re a new couple and have lots to learn.
Posted by: Richard | May 31, 2005 5:32 PM
Sometimes I can not always tell what My subs are thinking, but if I need any ideas I can come here and see what you and your comments say. If nothing else I just became a little smarter, thanks
and subhubby got what he deserved!!!!
Posted by: Mistress V | May 31, 2005 5:50 PM
Glad to be of service.
I made the checklist almost insanely thorough, hope you find a few entertaining ideas.
Posted by: Richard | May 31, 2005 6:02 PM
i would fancy weights on my balls and penis enought to stretch them and crawl on hands and knees,with the lady in pvc in control
Posted by: mike | February 5, 2006 5:27 PM
Yes, having them weighted would be very humbling (not something weve explored yet).
Though I cant imagine being fussy about what she might choose to wear at the time.
Posted by: Richard | February 5, 2006 5:36 PM