Fetishes: K

On knifeplay—

I had never engaged in knifeplay before being introduced to actually breaking the skin (with a surgical scalpel, as part of an educational BDSM group I belonged to). Knives are not something that had ever called to me particularly. The first time I encountered cutting in SM fiction (in the work of the incomparable Pat Califia), I was decidedly squicked and sold the book back.

While I am familiar with and amused by the phenomenon of a man getting hard when a razor is near his genitals, it had simply never occurred to me to play with knives without breaking my playmate’s skin until recently. (I was doing some research; you know how that goes.)

I have zero interest in having my skin cut (although I have done it to myself, in the interest of knowing my tools), so I can sympathize with a sub who does not wish to engage in this. My husband, for example. It’s scary as hell. And there is always the possibility of scarring.

Although, before I continue, I would like to note that the two men whose skin I’ve cut were exceptionally submissive for some time afterwards. This is something to keep in mind.

That said, there are an awful lot of sensation/mindfuck possibilities to blades that never break the skin. Dragging a sharp blade across someone’s skin without enough force to cut (careful!) certainly does get their attention. (This I have done—ah, anticipation.) Many people use the unsharp back of the blade. Or use a knife which has been deliberately blunted. These last two techniques I have not used…but I will.

The whole knife play issue leads naturally into bloodplay, which is perhaps why many people do not like knives. (There are of course serious safety issues. If you are cutting someone, you had better know what the hell you are doing.) While it amuses me to lightly cut a design into someone (the sound effects are just astonishing), other than “ooh, that’s pretty,” blood does not do a lot for me. Being able to make a print of the design onto a clean piece of paper I do like, though I’ve only done this once. The woman who taught me to use a scalpel had such a print, framed, in her living room.

Blood is part of the attraction of knifeplay for other people. My former pet was extremely taken with the idea of having a woman actually drink from him. (This strikes me as unhygienic; I was careful to treat the cuts with iodine/alcohol afterwards.) I painted a little of his blood onto my face once, at his request, I think. I know some people would find that horrifying, but it made him extremely happy.

I’m always impressed by the care and skill you bring to these things.

I’ve never even bothered to read about knifeplay. But you’ve made it sound far more erotic than I’d have imagined I could feel (I hope I’m making sense I’m damnbly exhausted and up only because I’m waiting to go to the airport.). Not yet having it done it is difficult to imagine my penis hardening when a blade comes near.

The prospect of something that would keep my in the slave trance longer is enticing. Especially while I seemed to be burdened by the fear I won’t stay there.

My imagination hints to me that if a woman were to smear a tiny bit of my blood across her cheek like something out of an ancient ritual it would be overwhelming.

As always, thanks.

I’m into BDSM and engage in knifeplay with my subs. Up until this time, I haven’t engaged in bloodplay but now have a request from a sub for a scene where she wants blood involved. I would like to contact someone for more information on this aspect of knifeplay. I can be contacted by email. The women who have been involved in these scenes are extremely turned on by this type of play and have unbelievable orgasms. I have never injured anyone during one of these scenes.

KNIFE PLAY QUESTION - I deal in swords/daggers etc. This past weekend I had a booth at my first fetish fair and had a good response from the Dom’s. I currently have your average run of the mill blades but am hoping to get some advice on what would sell in the scene. Are they any specific lengths preferred, dull/sharp edges, special shapes? I thank you all in advance.