Fetishes: S
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Saran Wrapping: No.
It slaps into my very quirky sense of claustrophobia. Very few things trigger it. I also find this wholly unerotic.
Scarification: Not sure, depends on details.
She’s not drawn to it so I won’t have to explain the marks to my doctor.
Scat: I really don’t think so. Admit to fantasies of being used as toilet paper.
No.
Scratching: yes, from vanilla to harsh or even Vampire Gloves.
A delightfully sexy form of torment.
The first person I ever slept with ran his fingernails along my back. I’ve always associated it with passion.
Sensory Deprivation: Yes but with care.
I’ve imagined myself left alone in a quiet room. I’m blindfolded and my ears plugged. It can go much deeper but requires fairly expensive equipment. Not sure how long it before I might actually just become restless. But it could be an interesting way to start an evening.
Intrigued but uncertain having had no experience.
Shared with others: No.
Psychologically intolerable.
Shaving (body hair): rather not.
I love smooth skin myself but this does nothing for me. Having the hair grow back would be a nuisance.
Shaving (genital hair): rather not.
Yawn.
Sleep Deprivation: interested.
I’m very interested in playing with reduced competence, ability. Without setting aside several days with no contact with other people it could get messy if I suddenly needed to go to work or deal with some problem.
I’d like to hear from anyone who has done this.
Spitting: Yes. Disturbs me a little.
Which proved to be an understatement.
Spread-Eagle/Chained out: sure thing.
How many thousands of nights did I picture myself that way? Immobile and exposed.
Speech Restrictions: Fine with me.
We’ll probably be exploring this. Should help me into the slave trance.
As with many F/m artists Googling around for Ironwood reveales nothing. I think Alexandra has plans that resemeble this.
Stocks: Yes.
One of my earliest, most basic bondage fantasies. If I weren’t strapped for cash I’d order one or two or …
Spreaders: Yes. Stockroom’s X-bar looks very exciting.
The spreaders have always struck me as very humiliating bondage. Particularly walking with a short one on your legs. Enforced awkwardness is degrading.
Strapping (full body beating): yes. (+)
We’ve never gone that far. Among my masochistic fantasies this is one of the half-dozen most brutal.
Suck your own cock: Oh, that I’d only learned how.
Whoever wants someone who can do this is in for a wait. “I’d never leave the house if I could” is the standard joke.
Suspension Upside Down: sure. (Requires special cuffs.)
Years ago I almost bought the cuffs made for relaxing that way. Can’t imagine what being upside down and whipped would be like.
Comments
actually, sleep deprivation is a bit dangerous from what i heard. not that i’m an expert, but i’m afraid (not that i have proof) that the effects of a sleep deprivation experiment would be permanent, like the results of asphyxiation play gone wrong.
of course, there’s always a danger in sexual experimentation. but i hear that sleep deprivation can permanently snap you—soldiers subjected to it never regain their marbles, and workaholics who have too many sleepless nights just snap and run away (i read about this one bright corporate star in people magazine who just up and left and didn’t tell his loved ones where he was).
but you do run a book store. so you’re hardly the overworked, sleepless, corporate drone type. glad to know that you’re not a scat fetishist. for some reason, that bothers me. can’t quite explain my feelings on that one.
Posted by: laura | June 9, 2005 5:40 PM
Sleep deprivation on the strongest level excites me the way recreational drugs combined with sex excites me.
But we’d have to play for a few days explore it. Even light sleep deprivation, missing one night’s sleep, would require we do D/s for far longer than we’ve come near to so far.
Don’t really expect to get to try everything that arouses my curiosity.
Posted by: Richard | June 10, 2005 7:47 AM
great site, very comprehensive.
wrt sleep deprivation—i don’t believe that the effects are permanent. never pulled an all-nighter to get through a school or work project? eventually, you crash, you catch up (you don’t even need to catch up on every single hour you’ve missed, i think—there’s a point of diminishing returns)—and you’re good to go.
Long-term sleep deprivation is not a good idea for a number of reasons (especially if you drive to work, say), but a couple of days’ worth for a scene? provided you’re not going to be responsible for much irl during those days? should be fine, i think.
personally, i’ve always hated (or thought i did) how i felt when sleep deprvied—never considered deliberately making use of it for altered states purposes, especially subspace. have to think about this one…
Posted by: lilith | October 23, 2005 10:26 AM
When I used to work for a newspaper we’d go a couple of nights without sleep. I remember dreaming standing up and as I was working. It was interested.
While I do have an interest in states that would allow for strong mental shifts – reconditioning I do know there are things that Alexandra and I won’t do.
For me the appeal of sleep deprivation would be both having to striver harder to perform adequately and the possibility of entering into a different, possibly deeper submissive state.
I hope we do get to try something along these lines. I think it’ll be a matter of lucky timing: me perhaps having missed sleep the night before for whatever reason and she being in the mood to take control.
Posted by: Richard | October 23, 2005 3:30 PM
sleep dep… argh not good for me if i go even one night without sleep i become very whingy, full asleep at a drop of a hat, get depressed and dont want to be near anyone. Sleep dep = not good and i can not imagine it used for erotic/sensual play. Master would never do that to me as it leaves me far to unbalanced and too irrational.
Posted by: purplekat | January 8, 2006 7:16 AM
Good. I’d hate to think of someone’s submissive nature being used to force him or her to behave in an unhealthy matter.
Sleep deprivation can be done in many ways. I remember reading of one of those amazing couples that have play sessions that last for a few days. During one such time the submissive was allowed only four hours sleep a day. Evidently they enjoyed the results.
Myself, I’m strongly drawn toward experiences that would intoxicate me in the way psychedelic drugs – which bore me now - once did. Though I know there are some things Alexandra and I won’t be experimenting with.
Posted by: Richard | January 8, 2006 9:09 AM