Down On My Knees, My Tongue Open for the 400th Time

Hello! Firstly, I want to congradulate you on having found happiness the way you are the most fulfilled. Secondly, I have also been trying to find blogs or journals with accounts of Female doms, and have noticed the lack. Although this is somewhat dissappointing, as a Female dom myself, I can say that most of what occours in the relationship does not seem to have a reason to be shared. The feelings of love I have for my sub, the way he can make me feel could potentially be of interest, but in looking through my blogs it may be hard to decide the difference between the type of relationship I have with him versus any other kind of relationship.

For the most part, any action that occours is the doing of my sub, not me. I don’t force him to do things for me, because then, after all, where is the submission if it is forced? My sub sees to my pleasure because he wants to please me. Any action I may take is unnessecary to acheive this result, as his obedience is part of his submission to me…

Although confusing, I hope this sheds some light on the topic for you :)

… but in looking through my blogs it may be hard to decide the difference between the type of relationship I have with him versus any other kind of relationship.

Sure F/m love is love.

I’ve been involved in online writing for years: before the web was added to the internet.

I’ve seen countless conventional couples talk about their relationships online. And no end of M/f couples write about their lives together. But virtually no F/m folk, even accounting for the quantitative difference.

My question is: why do female dominants and male submissives seem to be less likely to write than male dominants and female submissives?

Thanks.

I would point you toward my former pet’s weblog, but he deleted it when we parted ways.

I remember you saying he was a pretty articulate guy.

I’m not sure what I’d do with this if Alexandra and I were forced to part. At the very least preserve it.

Maybe when you find the right slavish guy you’ll …

Is it possible that some male submissives may feel like people may question their masculinity if they knew about it? It occurs to me that F/m relationships mess with gender stereotypes slightly more and people may feel uncomfortable talking to in on a medium where anyone could read it.

Embarrassed? Perhaps.

Plenty of submissive guys post on forum sites like House of Kink and Collar Me.

Though having a weblog or website may leave them feeling more exposed.

Hiya Richard , I am not sure if this is relevant or not ! I reply first and foremost to your comment asking for input / response from visitors to your excellent blog. My participation so far has been on a voyeuristic plane. I have always been a bit put-off posting an entry , lacking an academic background as I do. As far back as I remember , I have always had an urge to be the servant of a woman. At the age of four or five , while taking a bath , I pretended I was cleaning the bathtub to please the queen. I don’t really know where my masochistic ” nature ” stems from, I can only guess ascertain that it comes taking orders, slaps and scoldings from bossy women from a very early age. For many years I denied my masochism, buying Janus and reading accounts of schoolgirls being beaten by men , and women . About 20 years ago my wife found one of these mags. and confronted me with it. I told her I had these kind of thoughts , she said she was glad I told her and even though she thought it was a bit strange she would try to understand me. Ten more years elapsed before , one day I asked her if she she would give me a caning. I added , that if she would’nt , would she mind if I visited a professional domme. She said she would have to think about it and after ten days or so , she said she would cane my backside. The first time she caned me , I did’nt know what to expect , she did’nt know what to expect. I had told her that I might even ejaculate , I did’nt know. Anyhow, she was dressed in jeans an a tee-shirt. and she caned me carefully and at one stage she asked me if I was nearly there ?( close to ejaculating )I asked for a few more strokes and harder. She left the bedroom so I could take care of myself. The next time she caned me was totally different, she dressed in a black lacy bra , suspender belt , stockings , high heels, black nylon panties and a flimsy nylon shawl. We agreed on the number of strokes , fifteen as far as I remember ( I aked for five extra )and when she had delivered the last stroke she did’nt leave the bedromm, but felt between my legs. She said something to the affect , there was no need to let this go to waste. She slid in under me and I was in heaven having sex with my strict mistress. She has caned and slapped me many times since. Richard , as I said , I don’t know if this is worth inclusion on your blog but one way or the other, I will still read your postings and I will endeavour to comment and encourage you. I am also grateful for the links and ideas etc. that are available from time to time , where to go , where not to go , ( where not to go for me , would be cruella /OWK / full force etc. I prefer to be punished with T.L.C. ), thank you for your diligence, K.H.

K H

… lacking an academic background as I do …

Me neither. I don’t have even a high school diploma.

… I will endeavour to comment …

If something inspires a thought don’t feel shy about sharing it.

… one day I asked her if she she would give me a caning.

Thanks for sharing your own story.

Richard

Hi Richard. I have been reading your blog, and Alexandra’s, for a few months now. I enjoy them both. I should be leaving more comments, since your writing has been helpful to me. It helps me to make sense of my own feelings about my Domme/lover. Anyway, thank you very much for sharing your thoughts.

It helps me to make sense of my own feelings about my Domme/lover

Very kind of you to say that.

As you know that is the very reason we chose to take the risk of starting our blog. We loved the honest, real couple interactions we found on non-pro M/f blogs, but found few F/m counterpaarts (in fact, you found us I believe). We wanted to share our struggles and conquests with like minded folks.

I do find that the majority of writers out there are female subs, not sure what that means.

Her,

I’ve been wondering about the disparity between M/f and F/m weblogs for over a year now.

On my best-known weblog I did an entry citing a few interesting M/f ones that I liked. It was a narrow choice out of a large field.

On and off for a couple of months I spent time digging for F/m weblogs. My only criteria were that the authors not be pros and that the sites were still being updated. I found one Domme and one submissive. Finally when I started this I added it and that gave me three so that I could post an entry.

I am very glad you guys are there. The mix of love and power exchange is very lovely.

I’m a butch female in service to my femme Domme and love reading your journal. I’d be interested in seeing what other F/m journals you’ve found — can you post links?

Click on F/m weblogs at the top of this entry.

I’ll be noting more when I find them. Some of the ones I’m watching aren’t being updated right now.

First off, congratulations on (now more than) 400 posts! As for why I’m lacking in leaving comments here, I have to be honest and say I find myself… intimidated by your knowledge, for lack of a better word.

I am just now learning, as of a couple years ago, how to break out of that shell and bring to light desires I’ve had to hide. My current relationship is my first foray into dominance and submission. I’m in my late twenties and just now learning I can be and experience what I want to. I am still very much in the closet as far as my conservative, traditional family is concerned, and I don’t see that changing anytime soon. I fear the legal repercussions it may have on the 50/50 joint custody of my daughter I share with my ex-husband if he or they ever knew. My family is the type that would seek to have me committed to a mental institution for being attracted to another woman, much less let a man physically harm me, regardless of the fact I find pleasure in both pain and being submissive.

All personal rambling aside, I do enjoy reading what you choose to write here, even if I’m sporadic about it. (I read adult weblogs as I can when the Lil One isn’t around.)

… intimidated by your knowledge …

You may remember near the end of the Wizard of Oz the wizard is revealed to be an lovable old fraud.

I don’t know all that much. I’m just good at seeming to.

One of the reasons I like comments is that an exchange with another person often sharpens my own understanding.

My own family is gone so that isn’t an issue for me. Though I came out to them when I decided that I was gay. My father’s response was ugly. Someone into kink could face an equally nasty reaction if they have conservative parents.

Your Wizard of Oz statement made me smile. I’d never thought of it like that.

Also, your comment about the domain is noted. Technically, the journal and other site are separate domains, but there isn’t enough difference between the dot com and dot net URLs for my liking. :) I used to have a blog devoted entirely to D/s, but it’s been gone for quite a while. I’ve fallen out of the habit of writing about it since then.

richard you are to congratulated and i guess very lucky to have such a relationship! i, myself am also in one! i absolutely love my Mistress without restiction or hesitation. i obey any order immediately. Yes, i have been punished for poor service or not listening.. i find though, i have never felt so powerful or free when i am in the vanilla world! i am way more creative and inspired. i feel more emotions. Highly reccommended!

There are few blogs by non-pro Dommes cause we get too many men emailing or leaving comments asking us to perform as if we were professional Dommes. It’s really frustrating to be treated like a slut when I’m actually a very nice girl who just likes D/s and a few fetishes. I don’t want dick pics and I don’t want some guy who thinks I will travel thousands of miles to watch him cum on himself. There are times when I think every man is stupid! Or just very shallow and self centred.

my own sense is that there are so few articulate males. and less who are male submissives in a practicing state of submission.

my own blog is not about any particular relationships, but about FemDom relationships from the male submissive perspective.

regarding comments, I don’t get all that many, either. I suspect many are too insecure to post, or simply have little to add. Thus, sitemeter provides some feedback, when my readership does not.

I just like knowing if I’ve amused, helped or interested anyone. Pretty common I know.

For me it has been a surprise that most of the best comments are left by women.

Wish you’d left a link to your blog.

Richard, I’m just going to toss this out: Men tend to be more active with computers in general, and since blogging is still a fairly new media of expression, I think that you’ll find the numbers haven’t quite evened out yet WRT male/female users.

That said, if you scan web message boards or usenet forums, you still see slightly higher numbers of men posting. I’m not going to offer up any sociological explanations such as “men are early adopters for the technology” or “women already tend to be more expressive in real life”. I’m just waving around some patterns that I’ve noticed.

At some point in the last few years one of the major hosted blogging services – think it was Live Journal – actually reported they had slightly more female users. But LJ’s core base is fairly young which pretty much kills any gender differences in comfort with computers.

There are far more blogs by submissive women than dominant men.

I’ve sometimes speculated that people with submissive needs are either more articulate (not really) or have a stronger desire to explore/write about their desires. But I’ve never been able to come up with an explanation that truly satisfies me. Everything that comes to mind seems too glib.