The Femdom Police

Richard, this is a funny but sadly true observation.

I’m active on several web boards that focus on male chastity, and I’m always amazed that the sheer lack of helpfulness by the Femdom Police at questions posed by newbies - men who are dealing with the new feelings and frustrations of wearing a device. I’ve never stopped to cross-check the authors of such posts against those who always seem to be looking for the proverbial “Cruel, sadistic mistress to take control of my worthless cock”, but I suspect that you’re probably correct in your asessment and that an undue proportions of them are mistressless and are posting out of some kind of frustration.

I’ve even had email feedback telling me how I should have written some of the chastity stories that I’ve posted (!) and a few people telling me that I’m not a “true” chastity player (whatever the hell that’s supposed to mean) because my wife isn’t mistressy enough. Gosh, sorry that I bothered to clutter up the bandwidth, huh?

Richard,

call me sadistic or maybe i am being cautious, but can you publish the web addresses of these Femdom Police people. i have a question for you, if you are a true sub., then how can you sign your name with a capital letter? just curious.

Alicias1

“i have a question for you, if you are a true sub., then how can you sign your name with a capital letter? just curious.”

Oh for cryin’ out loud - don’t you realize that this is exactly the kind of thing he was talking about?

If you - and several thousand other people - want to make up some kind of rule book on what you think that the One True Way® should be, then go right ahead. But why do you - and apparently several thousand other people - have to insist that everybody must follow these rules in order to consider themselves to have a BDSM or D/s relationship?

If Richard (Capital ‘R’) considers himself to be submissive to his mistress, who are you - or your several thousand compatriots - to imply that he’s somehow doing it wrong because he’s not following some rule of capitalization?

Free your mind, Alicias - not of your desire for D/s, but of your conceptions of what D/s means.

Alicias1,

Femdom Police HQ is located in the narrow minds of a group of graceless people – mostly or all male – who post uninformed and unkind comments on various F/m weblogs and forums.

As I noted in an earlier entry I don’t use submissive as a noun and as far as I’m concerned a sub is a craft capable of moving under water.

What label I may use to describe myself is between my beloved and I and our ethics, aesthetics and sensibilities.

I entirely agree with the OP. I find people who try and insist that if things aren’t done their way, they’re not being done properly to be a royal pain.

OTH, I can’t stand the practice of changing the capitalisiation of words to reflect the d/s parts of a relationship to be a ridiculous conceit.

Heavens, if you’re not sufficiently confident of your place in a relationship that you need crutches like “Her and him”, or the truly horrible “O/our”, you’re surely still at the “playing” stage.

So does that opinion make me one of the boorish types - I don’t know. I’ve expressed that opinion once or twice, but I’d never try and ram it down anyone’s throat

I am in a femdom relationship for years now, and have been well trained along the way. Our relationship has come to total domination by my owner. She has decided that now castration of me would help her know that I am her slave forever. She wishes testicles and penis to become her trophies and wishes to use my sack as a pouch to keep the balls and whatever. Have been totally obedient, guess it will happen eventually and soon.