Evil Dom Women!

Once upon a time in the not so distance past, my paramour/sub joined an online group for D/s couples. Most of the time the conversations were relatively sane, informative and supportive. But once in a while….GLORY BE, GAWD ALMIGHTY…someone (always a sub male of some slant or other) would show up and the craziness would begin. In particular, I remember a gentleman who wanted to castrate himself as a surprise for his Mistress. To which one person responded, “Where is the submission in that? How can you be serving her by following through what is obviously your own desire and not hers?” To which another added, “What do you think she will do with this precious ‘gift’ of yours? Wear them as earings?

Moral(s) of the story? 1) Submissive men in the throws of animal passion should never drink and drive. 2) True FemDoms love men and abuse them safely. 3) The inherent dichotomy of #2 is what is so hot about D/s exchanges, if you’re smart enough to appreciate and embrace this. 4) If your Mistress is your boss, she’ll tell you what she wants…why don’t you just listen?

I think the guys who come up with the extreme, nutty stuff are mostly men without a Domme in their lives.

Not that I don’t have some fairly dark cravings - not castration! - but once you bind your heart with another’s you either get a grasp on reality or it the relationship will end.

Hi Richard,

Your comment got me thinking about ways to incorporate safely the really twisted sick extreme stuff that is buried deep inside and never let out.

For example, Mistress usually talks to me (weaving tales, usually) while I am servicing her orally. Usually she will ask reasonable questions like “Would you like to put your little cock in Mommy’s pussy?” To which I reply with an enthusiastic “Uhhh-Huh!!” while I keep licking.

While I am licking and sucking her, my mind is so far gone that I can imagine her saying some pretty extreme things that would really send me over the edge.

Of course, this all still respects the line between fantasy and reality…

“One of these days… slaveboy… I’m going to tie you up and put you in the puppy cage in the corner… And then, I’m going to have another guy come in and fuck me while you watch… That would be really hot for me, slaveboy… You really DO want to please ME don’t you?”

A scenario that would probably never happen in real life but which is very very hot to think about.

Or…

“You are such a good sissy boy… dressed in that little skirt… It makes me want to tie you up and have one of my guy friends fuck you up the ass while I watch…”

Her verbalizing during intimacy fantasies that can’t really be acted out in real life is such a good idea that I’m jealous for not having thought of it myself.

Mistress Laura’s Boy and Richard - this is what makes hypnosis so GREAT when used in a D/s relationship. My fella has this wonderful control box deep within his mind. On this box are many dials… dials that I control. One of my favorites is the one that controls his imagination. After turning it up to a very satisfactory level, I can then go on to describe so many things that wouldn’t be practical or physically safe to do. I can easily tell that he is experiencing these things so vividly in his mind because his body responds with great intensity - and not just with an erection, but other physiological signs as well (perspiration, rapid eye movement, etc). As far as this being SSC, he always knows he can reject any suggestion I give him even during the time he is hypnotized and I discuss things ahead of time just like I would if it were an actual scene.

Richard - this is an especially great technique for long distance relationship couples to share.

It never ceases to amaze me what total strangers who I have never met before are looking forward to doing in the guise of “serving” me. But then, it also amazes me that apparently so many women styling themselves as “Internet Mistresses” must want these same things that is is taken to be a universal. Or is it just a cliche, a role that is played by both sides?

My favorite example was a guy who didn’t just know what color and style of dress he’d be “made” to wear but the direction from which the wind would blow against it.

In recent months I’ve been struck by how many women seem to think saying “wanker,” a photo with a sneer and a donate button make them a professional. That you and a few others are taking the time to expose them - even if it is from self-interest - is a worthwhile project.

I want a woman that I can (seriously!!) trust with my penis in a real razor sharp guillotine. I want to feel the rush of knowing that if she let go of the cord after it was raised my manhood is gone. It sounds sick but it’s what I really desire.

I think I probably qualify as one of those evil dom women… but even I know better than to break my toys. if I damage my boys, then I don’t get to play with them again as I’d like. I have been known to cut, stomp, kick, punch, bite, bruise, welt and generally do nasty painful and degrading things, but damage is a huge no-no.

While I don’t think you’ve ever written detailed reports on what you do to men I’ve long pictured you as creating pretty intense scenes. (Much like Alexandra when I’m not being a wimp.)

But can’t really imagine you being careless or stupid.

Even Though im a girl, im more of a submissive person and desire a Dom. I have to agree with Jozez when I say that, when in this game you need someone you can trust not to over step any boundaries. Its all fun and games untill someone loses a testicle.

As Mistress Laura’s boy was talking about, I sometimes talk about over-the-top fantasies while Joscelin goes down on me (or something similar). What’s “over the top” for me might be mild for some, but I’ll say things like that if he stops I am going to thrash him until he bleeds (which I’ve never come close to doing). Heh.

Sorry for posting twice in a row, but I also want to add that, yes, of course I value my partner and am not willing to seriously injure, maim, or kill him. I wouldn’t play with someone I was willing to injure. BDSM is about love or play, not about wanting to actually harm another person.

That said, you shouldn’t assume that your play partner has the ability to keep you safe just because she’s a dom or a top or owns a suitcase full of single-tails or whatever. If your partner wants to do something you think is unsafe, it’s your responsibility to yourself and to her to have your concerns resolved before you begin.

Alexandra and I did have the night when she wanted me to do something that would’ve injured me. She had no way of knowing that at all.

Since we didn’t have a safeword I just yelled “SAFEWORD!”

Since then I’ve accepted that as unsexy as it is there needs to be a way to stop or end what is happening. The most loving top isn’t omniscient.