A spate of notes about male genitalia and D/s will probably ensue.
Partly because thinking about something publicly helps me achieve a cleaner understanding of what is passing through my mind. I’ll look at what I’ve written and go, “Now do you really think that?”
Purging myself of the images, just for now, seems a sane course.. I’ve found that excessive repetition of an imagined experience often wears it out. When Alexandra is back I can talk to her about it and maybe explore it. Right now I’d rather be in bed asleep.
Many of us would write hymns to our genitals, the happiness they’ve sent our way. Part of what baffles me is that it was such a long time before my penis and testicles appeared in my S&M daydreams.
It wasn’t that they’d been excised. Orgasms, erections, genital punishment never passed through my mind. The web taught me about genital torment and control. Mostly I just went “ugh!” Eventually my masochism seduced me. There were nights when I couldn’t clear the images from my mind.
Art by Rhodes about whom I know nothing.
I ask myself, Richard, why do these practices move you so deeply?
Masculinity I’ll confess to. But not the macho identity that - hiding insecurities, secret fears? - that can turn on itself. I love androgynous people: no silly gender nonsense crowding my mind. Gender qualities are lovely but nothing to create antagonism. Sexist stereotypes are ugly.
But to the meat of the matter at hand.
Most genital leashing uses the traditional cock ring: penis and testicles are both leashed at the same time. If there’s a part of the brain where the grovel response lives images like this make mine glow brightly:
Drawing by Iain from Woman Worship.
Is it ever really done?
There are mechanical problems: if bound when erect the tether would fall off when the penis is less tumescent. If bound when limp would it be too tight? Probably not for short term play. Or the restriction might prevent erection. Bet it would work better attached near the base than just below the glans.
Oh, I can see the risk. No more than other D/s practices. You do these things with someone you can trust or not at all.
Perhaps the appeal of cock leashing is the instant omnipotence it gives the one in control. An effect of anatomy: not male vs. female.