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As a guy of unbiased sexual orientation anal penetration has never frightened me. The first time I let a young fellow screw me all I did was raise my legs and let him do the work.

But it bored me. Actually I found bottoming mildly pleasant at times but exciting only twice. Letting a guy fuck me was mostly erotic civility. This deplorable insensitivity often left me feel as if I were being cheated. (The mystery of bottoms’ orgasms.)

On first reading of heterosexual women who use strap-on dildos it was like gazing at an artifact in a cabinet of curiosities: interesting bur irrelevant. As I read more of the gusto, very and power women brought to buggering their men my appreciation kindled.

That the dildo is unliving device makes the idea of being penetrated by one objectifying. Foucault’s reduction of penetrative sex necessarily being a power relationship I reject. But realize it is in the right context.

So I started fantasizing Alexandra sodomizing me with a dildo. Not that I told her. Putting her in the role of a “shemale” would be intolerable treatment of my beloved girl. But I always tell her everything and eventually shared this.

As she wrote yesterday the idea has come to appeal to Alexandra. The motion would be a dance of sort and she always finds dancing empowering. As does my finding the device depersonalizing.

So many kinks, so little time and money.

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I read The Kinky Girl’s Guide to Dating a few weeks ago, and it had a passage on strap ons, as a source of finding about all parts of your sexuality and how it can make you feel really in control. It said something to the effect of “I’m a girly girl. And I have a strap on. But mine’s pretty- it’s purple with sparkly glitter” (I don’t have an exact quote, the book is at home).

It made my day. And I know it’s probably different for you guys, but it sounds like a great fantasy to fulfill.

“purple with sparkly glitter”

Oh dear, I can so easily imagine Alexandra saying that is the kind she has to have.

It will be the dance of love :)

I don’t know if purple is the way to go though, I might want something red with sporty go-faster stripes.

my girlfriend and i just started this about a month ago. when we first started dating she told me that ome the things she wants to do before she dies is fuck a man in the ass, to feel powerful. my first thought was “hell no, not for me” but as we started getting more and more sexual with eachother, we wanted to try everything there was to do. so i told her one night, she could do to me whatever she wants, and she told me she wanted to fuck me up the ass. so we went to the store, picked out a strap on, which is also purple and glitery. and she fucked me up the ass. she started by fingering me and hwen i was comfortable we moved onto the dildo. its not extremely pleasing for me, although at times it does feel good, i like it more because i know shes enjoying it. im a 19 year old man who likes getting fucked in the ass by his girlfriend. its really something to try

My bf told me he want to try this strap- on thing I was ok fromthe beginning but when I tried it I feel disgusted.I do no tfeel like a woman.I did not see him like a man.It just did not feel right.I love my bf.We tried again but this time he asked me to make him suck it first.Afterthat I fuck him when I was fucking him he said”it is such a big dick”Afterthat I feel so bad because I think he is bi.I can not accept that.Because being bisexual is the worst place you can be.I broke up with him because I want a man who wants to fuck me like usual.

I ‘ve been pegged for many years with an assortment of women. The prostate is stimulated and exercised; which is good for my health since prostate cancer runs in my family. The orgasms are intense, and I can have as many as ten huge orgasms during a pegging session. The anus has many nerve endings, which are helpful in the pleasure aspect.

Psychologically, it’s fun to have role reversal during sex; that is to have the lady friend be in control of the duration, amount of penetration, speed, and roughness. I never tell the ladies to stop..they can stop whenever they are ready to do so.This allows them the chance to have power and control. They also decide how rough it will be ,ect. The women don’t have much sexual stimulation unless a harness with a vibrator is used; I recommend this.

Here are two seemingly opposing perspectives that, when really studied, actually say the same thing.

I broke up with him because I want a man who wants to fuck me like usual.

Psychologically, it’s fun to have role reversal during sex;

Both are really in agreement about the concept that penetration is the “manly” thing. Mary sees her bf as less of a man. GT confirms this in a roundabout way by calling it “role reversal.”

Why not simply accept anal stimulation for what it is without the comparison to something else? Why do we have to see sex as a penetrative activity at all?

Tom Allen The Edge of Vanilla

My wife and I were with another couple one night drinking and watching porno flicks. There were several scenes with women and dildos fucking men. We were having a lot of fun when the guy ask us if we had ever tried it, we both answered no, then they began to describe it. I admited that I always like to try new things. We went home that night and I forgot about it. Until a month later I came home late from work on friday night my wife was upstairs, I called to her to ask about dinner and the kids. She told me that the kids were gone and we were not eating tonight, just yet anyway. I went up stairs my wife was getting into the shower and I went to join her expecting to have some fun. While in the shower she gets out and comes back wearing a 6 inch long strapon. We were both laughing and having fun. I soaped it and stroked it and she began to get excited because their was a clit rubber insider her cunt stroking the dildo acutullay made her climax. Then she went down to suck my cock half way though she stood and and told me to suck her cock. I went along with it and It like nothing I had ever done. We got out of the shower and into bed and she wanted to fuck me with it, I said ok, if you want to I will. She lubed up her rubber cock and slid that monster in me and within a few minutes she was pumping away I started to jack off and we both climax nearly the same time. It was the most intense sex I had ever experience. We have been doing variations of it for several years. Remember that couple, we had some fun with them later on.

I had bottomed a few times and enjoyed it, but it wasn’t really my thing. Then I met a very hot man at the baths, muscular and hairy, with an 8 inch dick, who wanted to bottom me. He was such a turn on that I let him, after he had manually stretched my hole with three fingers, so I could take it without pain, and we both had an incredible time. We’ve been seeing each other for several years now and have become great friends and steady fuck buddies. He’s taught me a lot about being a bottom. The mutual pleasure we give each other is what keeps us together. I use Muse to stay hard, as I had the cancer prostatectomy before I met him. When he fucks me, I have several orgasms, but internal ones, not genital, e.g., in my dick. This must be what women feel. They are always shuddering and wildly abandoned. Then after he’s enjoyed himself for a time, he finally comes, and I again have a wild one with him, with both of us shouting and spasaming. Afterwards, I’m still hot because I haven’t yet had a dick orgasm and it’s still hard because of the Muse, so he lies back and I take his beautiful, soft big cum-covered dick in my mouth and jack off, and in a few minutes I have the REALLY BIG O, I really feel it at the base of my dick, and I’m like a puppet being wildly jerked around on strings. It is incredible! We’ve never tired of it, it’s always like the very first time. Don’t call me Madonna, I’m as butch as he is.

Don’t call me Madonna, I’m as butch as he is.

That is mostly a heterosexual male thing. Most gay bottoms are masculine.

This sounds interesting! I have fooled around by myself for quite sometime. I even brought the big boy a couple of times and had my girlfriend watch. She ‘says’ she liked it. And as near as I could tell it did turn her on. She always knew that when we went to the adult store and we bought an anal wand that I was going to try it! We got close to helping out before but never went all the way. She asked me if I wanted her to use a strap on. I was embarrassed and said no. But now that her and I are broke up, I’m kicking myself because it sounds like it would have been fun. I already enjoyed light anal play, and when I did it in front of her it was a huge vulnerability which was very arousing. I think that the element of her performing on me would add even more vulnerability and trust to it. I was always attracted to her domineering personality. This would just be an extension of that.

thanks for the posts! I feel like less of a freak now!

I have been looking for a place to express myself on this topic. I have engaged in anal play since I first started having sex. At 18 my girlfriend gave me a rim job and I have been hooked since then. For a long time I played by myself with various toys and enjoyed it. I was dating a woman about 10 years ago and we started experimenting with role play. One day she was in between my legs and started motioning as if she was penetrating me. It was a real turn on for both of us! We discussed it and decided to buy a strap on. That experience was unique in itself. After purchasing it we played and had lots of fun. She loved being in control and the power of the penis. I loved not being in control and giving up the power. Since then I have been fucked with a strap on by 2 other women. I clearly enjoy the experience but struggled with why I enjoyed it so much. At times I questioned my sexuality, does this mean I’m gay? I came to terms with the fact that I am not. I enjoy the stimulation from it and I enjoy being dominated by a woman. I also love being in “submissive” positions, on my back legs in the air or on my knees getting it from behind. I have come to terms with the fact that I am a man and I love being fucked by a woman wearing a strap on and that’s ok. That being said there is another side to the experience. I understand the womans comment that said she didn’t like seeing her man like that. I wonder if letting them fuck me had a detrimental effect on my relationships. The 3 relationships where the woman has fucked me have all had problems. It seems like there was a power struggle that occured after I have let them fuck me. There were other issues that occurred but I often wondered if some of them were indirectly related to the strap on sex. I should say that other relationship that have ended didn’t have the same power struggle. I asked myself, was it me that was the problem? Did I feel like I gave to much away during strap on sex and was I now trying to reclaim that power outside of the bedroom? Not sure. Did they feel like they could walk over me because they had fucked me? Not sure. The subconscious mind is something else. It took a lot to get to the point where I could ask each of them to fuck me, a great deal of trust, openness and vulerability, maybe I couldn’t deal with it. It was some of the best sex I have ever had and I enjoyer it immensely but I am not sure I will ever ask a woman to fuck me again, and I have to say that leaves me disappointed and somewhat unsatisfied. Thank u for a forum to discuss. I always knew there had to be others like me. I feel better knowing that there are straight guys like myself that enjoy being fucked with a strap on by a woman. I would love to hear more comments from women who have fucked their man and how they feel after the experience.

I have been looking for a place to express myself on this topic. I have engaged in anal play since I first started having sex. At 18 my girlfriend gave me a rim job and I have been hooked since then. For a long time I played by myself with various toys and enjoyed it. I was dating a woman about 10 years ago and we started experimenting with role play. One day she was in between my legs and started motioning as if she was penetrating me. It was a real turn on for both of us! We discussed it and decided to buy a strap on. That experience was unique in itself. After purchasing it we played and had lots of fun. She loved being in control and the power of the penis. I loved not being in control and giving up the power. Since then I have been fucked with a strap on by 2 other women. I clearly enjoy the experience but struggled with why I enjoyed it so much. At times I questioned my sexuality, does this mean I’m gay? I came to terms with the fact that I am not. I enjoy the stimulation from it and I enjoy being dominated by a woman. I also love being in “submissive” positions, on my back legs in the air or on my knees getting it from behind. I have come to terms with the fact that I am a man and I love being fucked by a woman wearing a strap on and that’s ok. That being said there is another side to the experience. I understand the womans comment that said she didn’t like seeing her man like that. I wonder if letting them fuck me had a detrimental effect on my relationships. The 3 relationships where the woman has fucked me have all had problems. It seems like there was a power struggle that occured after I have let them fuck me. There were other issues that occurred but I often wondered if some of them were indirectly related to the strap on sex. I should say that other relationship that have ended didn’t have the same power struggle. I asked myself, was it me that was the problem? Did I feel like I gave to much away during strap on sex and was I now trying to reclaim that power outside of the bedroom? Not sure. Did they feel like they could walk over me because they had fucked me? Not sure. The subconscious mind is something else. It took a lot to get to the point where I could ask each of them to fuck me, a great deal of trust, openness and vulerability, maybe I couldn’t deal with it. It was some of the best sex I have ever had and I enjoyer it immensely but I am not sure I will ever ask a woman to fuck me again, and I have to say that leaves me disappointed and somewhat unsatisfied. Thank u for a forum to discuss. I always knew there had to be others like me. I feel better knowing that there are straight guys like myself that enjoy being fucked with a strap on by a woman. I would love to hear more comments from women who have fucked their man and how they feel after the experience.

I have read all the posts and find the varying opinions very interesting, I am now 39 years of age and been through many girlfriends based on this issue until I found a woman totally like myself and she is the mother of my child and also my wife. In regards to the strap on situation I have had girlfriends totally uncomfortable with that fantasy given the fact that they think it shows homosexual tendencies, I have also had girlfriends that have handcuffed me to a bed during fore play and to my surprise pulled out a strap on and a video recorder and pounded my ass so hard, however my ex that did that totally took control of the relationship which was not what I wanted therefore leading to our split. At current my wife and I do undertake this as she fucks my ass with a 6’ strap on, it actually all started when we had a huge arguments about 10 years back in which I went to the pub and got hammered with my mates, however when I got back my wife dominated me and fucked me like her little bitch and because of the alcohol I could not really resist. Ever since she has fucked me twice a day in the ass in all positions, with me on my back and my legs in the air, with me on top of her, however her favourite position is in front of the mirror fucking my ass doggy style which tends to be the regular one as she now fucks me more than I fuck her. The only terrible thing that has occurred is the fact that my daughter who is 19 caught us at it about a year back and has since been taking advantage of me when I are drunk and my wife is away by fucking me in the ass and having her friends watching and laughing while she humiliates me, I have kept this from my wife however and stopped alcohol altogether.

Since being,found in my wifes panties and bra ,while giving oral sex to our male neighbor ,she has now used a strapon on me many times and loves it and as she says ,I moan and groan and act just like a women and my tiny penis is hard as she does it ,so I guess you could say I like it,and she even had it taped to show at a party she had to show her girlfriends Now they want to try and use one on me lol

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