Do You Want to Be Remade?
» Humbling
This afternoon I was visiting the friendly folks at the House of Kink. Ms. Moderatrix - isn’t that the best name for a forum moderator you’ve ever seen? - mentioned men who claim they want a Domme to remake them. To make them better.
To ask another person to rebuild you into a finer human being is dangerous sort of wishful thinking. And what a burden to impose on someone else.
Naturally if a dominant woman is your lover then it is fair to hope she’ll help you become a better person. Maybe - unless your sense of reality is lost in dreams of Female supremacy - you can help her similarly.
But really the capacity of self-enhancement must be within us. Another may help us prime the pump but no more.
Not that I wouldn’t like my beloved to remake me. But only in a D/s sense. I’d like for ‘training’ to enable me to more readily shift into being her slave. To server her as rapidly and faithfully as possible.
Given that I’ve confessed to often wanting D/s more than she that might sound funny. But there’ve been nights when distractions interfered with the transition from lover to slave. Certain kinds of conditioning might enable me to more readily cast off my cares and fall to my knees to please her. In being more able to serve her I’d be serving my own needs.
Sometimes trying to shift from one mental space to another is like wandering in a strange dark house searching for a light switch.
So I do hope that Alexandra may remake me so that I can more easily offer worship.
Comments
I really couldn’t be bothered to remake someone outside of a D/s sense. When it comes to shaping and forming things and calling them my own I have my music and other creations upon which to inflict my will and do as I may.
I prefer a partner to have their own autonomy because at the end of the day I like company. As far as shaping in a D/s sense, I think it’s all part and parcel. Sometimes, I don’t know how to adjust you in ways I’d like, but talking is probably a better tool in this area than flogging (though I’m sure that has some enforcing properties too).
Posted by: Alexandra | January 12, 2006 3:05 PM
It was peculiar in that it was as if the men wanted to be made into model citizens or the like.
One of the many ways I’m so lucky to have found you is that we have good conversations about anything including our D/s dynamic. Within D/s I do want to be ‘remade’ in the sense that I want my desires to become better aligned with yours.
The night I asked you to walk on me - I’m sure you’ll never forget my original fears - was that sort of transformation.
The other tools besides conversation don’t hurt. Oh, I guess they do.
:-)
Posted by: Richard | January 12, 2006 4:26 PM