Indifference
» Humbling
Some years ago a man introduced me to the idea of a slave being ignored by the owner. A wild surpsie swept along my spine as a new fetish swam into my ken.
Gentle Depraved Soul asks:
… that even if I pretend to ignore you or degrade you, you’re the first thing on my mind in the morning and the last image as I fall asleep …
Alexandra asks:
This is interesting. Which do you subs prefer, a woman who is indifferent to your actions or one who has the same passion? …
Hard to find an image of indifference. Becoming mere furniture is close enough. Wish I could remember where I got this from.
You know if you could peel away the surface confusions evoked by whipping and boot licking I wouldn’t be surprised if this desire wouldn’t trouble a conventionally sexed person more than any other part of D/s.
But for some of us being treated with seeming indifference meets a core part of our slavish needs. The objectification of being treated as a mere thing, at best a tool of service. It is a powerful way to find yourself truly humbled.
And to confront the terror and grace of total humility is one of the things many of us seek.
Comments
I have actually considered this idea, I am very much in My own world 99.9% of the time.
I believe that if a slave is to truly be a perfect slave for Me, they should learn to be as useful as that lovely albert from the Batman comics, but as invisible as furniture. Will I ever find someone to fill that niche? I dont know but I am going to keep looking.
Posted by: Mim RedBeard | December 12, 2005 10:58 PM
Don’t you get email from men saying that is exactly what they (think) they want more than anything else in life?
Posted by: Richard | December 13, 2005 5:51 AM
While I do recieve said emails. When I then open a dialogue with these men they inevitably start making demands that I refuse to allow until they have earned it. For the most part the men I have spoken to are not willing to give up totally of themselves. To be objectified, in My opinion, they need to give up all of who they are in the beginning. No holding onto anything. None so far are willing to commit that much into it. All the ones I have spoken to tell Me I hold My standard of service too high. I do not think so I think they are just upset since they didnt make the cut. I want total devotion but with the understanding thata full day may pass and while I may never acknowledge your existance, I expect you to continue with every daily chore and for it be done to perfection. Maybe My standard is set to high, but I dont think so I know they exist the ones who burn to serve in the manner I require. Its just a matter of finding the right fit and not settling with a maybe.
Posted by: Mim RedBeard | December 15, 2005 5:31 AM
Given all the guys who say they will do “anything” I’m surprised you haven’t had at least one who thought he’d be able to handle what you want.
That level of self-abnegation, devotion to another is rare. For the religions it is a mark of sainthood.
But I do think that uncommon sort of person does exist and hope you’ll find one.
Posted by: Richard | December 15, 2005 7:55 AM
I have been under the total control of my Mistress for 5 years and 2 months. We are married, but gradually after she gained complete authority over me I have been reduced to nothiong more than her property to use as she wishes. I had to resign from my job to become the full time housekeeper & cook. I had to surrender my driver’s license & obtain a state ID card. I clean her sister’s house each week as well as one of her friend’s townhome. Mrs. does take me places & I travel with her. She discusses nothing with me. I have worn some kind of chastity device since almost the first day I gave in to her. I am currently in a curve.People treat their pets better than I am treated
Posted by: jean | August 4, 2006 1:46 PM
Regardless of what Elise Sutton says spousal abuse is wrong - period.
If what you say is true then you should leave her.
Posted by: Richard | August 4, 2006 2:12 PM
richard, what happened to the human furniture one? i tried to post there today and couldn’t. GOD i love this site! i recently enjoyed watching 300 and Xerxes (Rodrigo Santoro) was a GOD and walked down a human staircase! i was so wet! and it was really humans, not animation!
i hope to visit here often. i love to read others’ thoughts. we need more women that serve men. :O)
i fantasize all the time about kneeling at my husband’s feet, with his feet resting on my body while he visits with a friend. being ignored. being told to take off his shoes and massage his feet. kiss and lick his feet. do the same for his friend. maybe he could have me bow or kneel when his company arrives.
Posted by: becca | April 22, 2007 8:10 PM
Indifference is the ultimate form of humiliation. You, the slave, are not held in low esteem — you are held in no esteem. You are not just lowly — you are nothing! Even if it’s just a game (as most of the scene actually is), it’s a potent game.
To be expected to lick Her boots or shoes clean. for instance, then not to have ethat service even acknowledged, is far worse than not to be thanked (Note: imho, a Mistress should NEVER “thank” Her slave for anything; service is what a slave does, self-abnegation is a slave’s career, and it is the least to be expected. In the rare event that a slave performs far above what Mistress expects, Her response should be limited to saying that She is pleased — whereupon it is the slave’s cue to thank Her, profusely and with long kisses on the toe of Her boots, for the honour of being allowed to serve Her.)
In general, using a slave as furniture or carpet, with no recognition that a slave is a person, is the best way, in my humble opinion.
In fact, being a voluntary slave means just that: surrendering, within the castle, 100% of one’s rights, dignity and self-respect to Her.
Posted by: bootlicker | November 5, 2009 6:46 PM