Nickname? Pet Name?
» Humbling
Once when seriously negotiating with a dominant I was asked to come up with a pet name for myself.
My mind went blank. Should it be something degrading? Sometime cute? Which would be worse? (Cute.)
I’ve never relished selecting the name of a traditional four-legged furry pet.
Alexandra has talked about doing more pet play. What does that mean? Honestly I’m not sure. And best to not have specific anticipations, to let it just flow.
She’s also told me that she’s selected a nickname for me. Whether as part of pet play or not I can’t recall (or if I knew).
Nor do I know what it is. I’ll be looking up her from the floor when I learn most likely.
Am I excited? Yes. Am I happy? I don’t know. I’ve never been a nickname kind of guy and am annoyed by people to truncate my name.
But I’ll cheerful accept my new designation. Be interesting to see what sort of power it comes to have over me.
Comments
The name is just for pet play, and will be a useful way to seperate the pet play from the other softer-side-of-the-spectrum play such as pleasure-slave and… um… anything else I may invent.
Posted by: Alexandra | March 5, 2006 3:09 PM
I have always used pet names with lovers, BDSM, vanilla, etc. usually animal names. (“Angelbird,” “Rabbit,” etc.) I come by this honestly; my parents have been calling each other “duck” for the last 40 years since courting on the Red River on the MSU campus, feeding the ducks.
My last sub went by a Japanese word for an animal with the diminutive used for pets and small children. Sometimes I just called him “creature.” He liked that.
I warned my current pet that he would undoubtedly end up with an animal name. While, if he is any creature, he is a puppy, somehow he has just ended up as “pet.” Sometimes he is “pretty thing,” a term I’ve always objected to when applied to women (usually as “pretty young thing”) as it objectifies them. I’m not being sexist here — objectifying my pet is part of the point.
Posted by: R | March 5, 2006 8:59 PM
Being objectified by your Domme is one of the rewards – though we may shudder a little at it.
I’ve just never had the imagination to take me there.
Posted by: Richard | March 5, 2006 9:47 PM
A slave owns and controls absolutely nothing, not even its name. Part of Mistress owning a slave is that She decides everything, including Her pet’s name, what it wears, eats, where it sleeps, what tasks it performs for Her, and how much it is punished for displeasing Her — or even whether to see Her slave writhe in pain simply because it amuses Her to watch it suffer.
Posted by: worthless dog | August 25, 2006 12:29 AM
One Mistress wanted to call me “Precious,” which is a flattering sentiment, but I couldn’t hear it without thinking of Gollum in “Lord of the Rings”, and had to safeword.
Posted by: Peter Tupper | August 25, 2006 1:24 PM
Individual quirks of cultural association can really kill the theatre of D/s.
She’s never actually given me a pet type name, which is fine with me.
As it evolved when I act as her pet it is mostly very tender, though some things are quite humbling (and thus deeply satisfying).
Posted by: Richard | August 25, 2006 1:56 PM