Shame and Degradation

I’ve tried to make this point several times over the years. Don’t hurt to try again.

As an emotional masochist I have a great interest in degradation and humiliation.

In my own private lexicon degradation focuses on physical acts, humiliation on verbal.

The goal is to capture a sense of lowliness that enables me to reach into the depths of submissive emotional space.

They aren’t really shaming. Real shame has no place in sex play for me. To the degree that I’ve experienced the emotion it has little to do with BDSM. What shame I’ve felt has been born of much more significant failures as a human being. Being thoughtless is shameful, drinking piss is not.

Degradation is something I think of as symbolic play. But most certainly play. I would never violate my core sense of self for a kinky thrill.

But I do thrive on cultivating an illusion of inferiority without ever actually feeling inferior.