Multiple Profiles?
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Walt Whitman - not that I’ve ever read him said “I contain multitudes.”
I certainly feel that way sexually. Rare is the sexual image or idea that I couldn’t respond to if I chose to. Sometimes I don’t.
Even within D/s and S&M.
Several years ago when looking for love or something along those lines online I maintained multiple profiles and personal ads. Each one captured a different facet of my sexuality.
But I’ve never done anything like that as a BDSM bottom. But I’m considering it.
I’ve been working on a profile that focuses exclusively on myself as a humiliation bottom and pain slave. Even among fairly intense BDSM folk some of that can spark squeamishness. And I suspect my profile that tries to capture all the various modes of interaction that I can respond to is confusing for many people.
Annoyingly often the kind of top who is interested in this kind of kink tends to fall toward absolutism with a tendency to see it as appallingly despotic. While I may want to role-play doormat I have no intention of ever becoming one.
I may make it a micro-website and include some of the relevant pages from here. With over twelve hundred entries so much is buried.
… I just don’t know.
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I tried that once. I made one profile that was purely about service and other that was about play/relationship.
Turns out it really doesn’t matter. Dommes don’t really read profiles that much anyway. They’re too swamped with emails to even worry about it.
Posted by: axe | February 20, 2008 12:53 AM
I don’t understand the having multiple profiles thing. I see people with separate top and bottom profiles all the time… it seems odd. Why don’t they just make one switch profile and be done? Is this some sort of experiment to see what message attracts the most people? If your profiles each only contain part of yourself, how can you ever attract someone who will love all of you?
Posted by: ms_madison | February 21, 2008 10:37 PM
Ms Madison, you make a good point but in my experience the two halves of me don’t really gel. Sometimes one is on top, other times it swings around. And both like to speak for them self. I don’t have multiple profiles, my profile when it was up was minimalist and could be taken either way. And being female I was able to do the hunting anyway.
Posted by: doll | February 22, 2008 6:53 PM