Dear Reader, Who Are You?

You must have been reading my mind! :) I’ve been thinking of “describing” myself on my D/s blog but I don’t know how to start and where to start. I’m thinking I should start to “expose” my self piece by piece.

Where to start?

Relax, have a glass of wine and just start typing.

Tell about, say:

Beginning to discover your dominant side: early fantasies, coming to admit it to yourself (if that was a problem), beginning to explore it in real life, how it makes you feel, things you aren’t (yet) comfortable with that you might like to explore.

Each of those would make at least one if not several good stories.

Don’t feel that you have to write about anything exhaustively. You can return to the same themes many times to share another thought or feeling. Longish, in depth articles are great when you feel like writing them but there’s no fault in short entries.

in regards to long denial of release. after wearing a chastity device along with being tained to open my pussy completely over a year in time the mind is literally reprogrammed. as each bigger plug opened me more and to be taken by Mistress again and again as she used her dildo to give me pleasure so intense. finally after the third and largest dildo was worn all through the night and it would slip in and out so easily in the morning and Mistress could slip her fist inside the mind began to realize that all plesure comes from having the pussy filled. the clit became for Mistress to play with as she willed. even now she has removed the chastity device and now the change is complete as all pleasure comes from yearning to have my pussy filled more and more, a true sissy slut slave n.

I entered this life style back in 1993 I met my future husband at a vanilla party ….I attempted a pass at him and he blocked me with a comment of “we need to talk first”

He was a DOM and we talked long and hard I jumped in as a submissive with no issues at all then within months he developed lou gerrigs disease…..upon his passing I did attempt to replace him to find a Sir who would place me on his pedestal…..instead of finding a replacement I decided to imitate him …to find a toy with hunger to place him on my pedestal to treasure him …..it has taken many years for all of this to evolve BUT I have arrived I have acheived my goal and am continuing to move forward..thanks for the question…am new to the site and am enjoying it alot

Hello: I lived in Australia for a time. I had the good fortune to meet a lovely TS Domme in greater Sydney. We became friendly and I became something of a personal slave to her. I also came to know a female slave in her service. I guess you could say that we became friendly as well. We married about 16 months later. It’s been 7 years and we are very happy together. We can’t help but look at each other and laugh when someone inquires..”How did you two meet?” Just wanted to share. We love the site. Craig & Melinda

Craig & Melinda,

Thanks for sharing your story. Best wishes.

i am proudly owned by Mistress Gina of Buffalo NY. i met Her professionally and since our sessions we have become bestest special friends in addition to our Mistress/slave realtionship. She is the most wonderful Woman i have ever met and the descriptions on your hp describe Mistress Gina to a tee. We enjoy many facets in a scene but it is truly more than the scene that makes our relationship special and the magic she holds over me. She is the best, yes i may be biased, but i truly believe that.

shortly after my marriage i misbehaved at a party by fondling her girl fiends butt at a party. she found out what i did and was really mad at me. that night in bed i confessed and told her i thought that if she gave me a sound hairbrushing it would teach me a lesson i wouldnt forget. she told me to fetch her hairbrush and get over her knees with a bare bottom. i was then spanked hard and promised it would never happen again. the whipping continued and i ended up crying like a kid, wow did that sting.

I am a Domme. I got into the lifestyle almost three years ago. I was introduced to the D/s by my sister-n-law who I didnt know at the time was a Domme.

I met my current partner at a party he is also Dominant. We are a Dominant couple we do not try to dominate one another we are conent being equals. We have two r/t subs. One is my personal slave the other serves us both. Neither are live in at this point. I have recently gotten into Online Domination. I have a few distance slaves and am beginning to enjoy the online scene almost as much as real time as it allows me to use my creativity and meet lots of interesting people.

Dark Goddess

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Hello Richard,

I have to make a comment on here, because actually tonight in my journal I posted about finding information on male submission on the internet, yes you can find it, but you have to weed through a lot of crap before you do. I am new to the lifestyle, just collared February 23, 2006, but I have to say the information you state here is absolutely correct. You are an individual with real thoughts, feelings and charisma.

Well anyway, just wanted to say thanks for writing about yourself, and stating your feelings in a truthful and upfront manner. Being new, I could definitely use advice and help from people in my situation. Be well…..Jay

I understand.

While D/s is D/s regardless of gender one necessarily seeks to find people with whom one can more closely identify.

It is better than it was a year ago. There are more personal sites/weblogs by F/m couples than there used to be.

There are also a few decent forums like Orgasm Denial, House of Kink and Femme Domme with civil and intelligent discussion. (Check my F/m Weblogs and Reference sections.)

Thanks Richard, I will have to definitely look into some of the avenues you spoke of. Glad you have this blog, it helps to know of someone in a similar arena.

Take care.

Just reading and replying to what people write on their own sites can lead to lots of empathy and discovery.

i’m totally submissive and want to join a nearby group so that i may be sold or given to a suitable male dom.but before the sub group will accept me as a memebr they want proof i am totally submissive - perhaps by showing i’ve been caned and have welts on my bare skin to prove it.

Thanks for your website..there is a wealth of interesting information and a lot of intelligent insights. I would be interested on your feeback on the question of someone who is a control freak (concerning mainmy myself..i.e. I am obsessively perfectionist and exhert very strong will power intelectually and sexually i.e. periods of abstinence not giving into temptation etc…but I have a very powerful urge to be dominated by a woman and find the wole idea incredibly exiting. I have had some experience but mainly don’t dare admit such penchants to my partners…I feel a deep sense of shame as though even by indulging in such fantasies was terribly demeaning…shamefull….huhumiliating….what do you think of these paradoxes? Do you ever feel that being submissive is dangerous to one’s self-esteem…in fact how can onbe maintain a healthy self-esteem even knowing that one one has such urges? Thank you for your time.

Sorry for the delay in responding Andar.

The contradictions you feel aren’t uncommon.

But feeling a need to be hurt and humiliated during play or in a certain kind of relationship doesn’t translate to your entire life. The important thing is to discover your real needs and find a way to express them.

I enjoy submitting to Alexandra. I don’t submit to anyone else. When she whips me, leads me on a leash, makes me eat food from the floor the final effect is happiness.

The only thing to feel ashamed of is not fulfilling yourself. Do what you need to in order to become happy.

Hi,

I’m a gay male slave, in the community for about 12 years and recently more active in the community in Boston. I’ve been with my Master since we were both vanilla. It’s been an interesting 12 years.

I’ve recently created a BDSM-themed card game, called “Pig of the Run”, after a real life-changing experience at my first multi-day leather event. It was AMAZING, and I wanted to save a taste of it through the game.

To be honest, I am very inexperienced when it comes to the whole BDSM experience. I feel lead to this arena in search of self-actualization.

Currently, I am a massage therapist and esthetician. I am in training to aquire skills in rolfing, physical training, and chiropractic work.

What I am searching for is that thin line of therapuetic torture, I have come to experience from time to time. I have a theory that a hard core harmony of Tantrism, Bondage, Spa Treatments can open a few doors to the divine.

I am currently looking for companions to aid me in this surreal journey…

There’s no shame in being new. We all are at some point, even dominants. And though I’ve been with Alexandra for almost two years we’re both still learning and growing.

I’d really like to learn more about the experiences you mention. It sounds pretty fascinating.

The first experience I remember having was a few years ago. Me and my girlfriend at the time was experimenting with being tied up and trust. I remember lying on my stomach while she viciously bit my inner thighs until I cried. She didn’t stop. During the hours of intense pressure, rimming, and biting I entered into a trance of religious proportions, not at all different from the spiritual shouting I experienced in my many years in Pentecostal Churches.

After that moment of delicious delirium, we began to delve deeper into this channel of sexuality. We began to search each others bodies orally. There is nothing like being swallowed thoroughly from head to toe. Being a massage therapist, I experiemented with accu-points, accu-suction, and abrasion which, in the context of bondage, was incredible.

Thus, I am searching for the perfect Tantric ritual to achieve that transcendental trance.