Feminization
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A long time ago I sent Alexandra a checklist outlining which kinky acts excited or repelled me. There were few that said, "No I can't handle that." Tickling was one. Tickling only sends me into a rage and makes me want to assault the tickler.
Feminization was another. I don't dispute the pleasure that many F/m couples experience from turning a man into a 'sissy.' Still it is one of the sexual experiences where my empathy cannot go.
I've never been able to see making a man feminine as anything other than implying that femininity is somehow inferior. Sissyfication seems inherently sexist. I enjoy and admire genuinely feminine guys. I don't seem them as in any way inferior to men who act like John Wayne (choose or your own masculine stereotype).
If I were forced to wear a maid's outfit or some other sort of female garment I'd certainly feel that I looked foolish. If I were a willowy youth it might be different. It wouldn't make me feel humble or humiliated. I'd feel that I'd been yanked into cultural stereotypes that I reject.
It surprised me how popular strapon sex is. Being pansexual I've had my prostate massaged by a man's penis. To be honest it rarely excited me. I view that as my loss and am thankful for the few times it gave me great pleasure.
Since I'm comfortable with being penetrated the thought of someone wearing a strapon entering me hardly seems humiliating. Actually the idea seemed a bit dull: a real penis has nerve endings and genuinely responds to the stimulation it receives.
But it pleases me that there are heterosexual men who can enjoy having their prostate massaged. That they see it as a power exchange seems a bit odd but I can't really expect myself to empathize with everything. How many of them I've wondered are really bisexual but afraid to admit it. (From the number of 'straight' men who approached me online I suspect very many of them.)
Recently I did finally come to fantasize a little bit of being penetrated by a faux-penis. The appeal is that it is an unfeeling object. It wouldn't make me feel less a 'man.' But I can see it as a way of simply being used and dehumanized by having something unhuman inserted in me.
If you are a man who likes being a sissymaid and thinks I'm condemning you please understand that I'm not. It is that I'm too comfortable with my own inner masculine androgyny to really understand what is going through your mind when a woman humiliates you by making you into a woman.
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hi, how to be a sissy … please tell
Posted by: ron | November 28, 2005 12:50 AM
Put on a dress and makeup I guess. What sort of pointers are you looking for?
Posted by: Richard | November 28, 2005 8:15 AM
Ok the appeal of being a sissy is that simply its not often that a man can be placed into the role of a sexual object. And if a man is inferior, or unsure of his masculinity then the obvious outlet is that he would want to be used in another ways. Now this isnt to say that all men wish to be feminized to fullfill the urge of being thought of as sex objects. However for men like myself I am not a “genuenly feminate guy”, infact i am a larger man, but my body and personality simply dont coinside. I want to be used as a sexual object, by being a sissy, not because the female role is ‘weak’instead because the female role has a different sexual fullfillment to it. Im afraid that this will never be read as it is posted far later then the origenal post however Im glad to see that someone is outthere asking questions. Ill try to answer more.
Posted by: Bishop | January 4, 2006 2:55 AM
Not easily finding yourself objectified as an object of lust is one of the disadvantages of conventional heterosexuality for men.
Gay males have no difficulty treating other guys as sex objects, including and mostly very manly, butch men.
Posted by: Richard | January 4, 2006 2:28 PM
I agree and thats why alot of men who get feminized also fantised about giving oral sex to other men, and some such as myself also are bisexual. Although that varries.
Posted by: Bishop | January 27, 2006 12:47 AM
I just want to give a womans point of view on your subject. I will not be critical and hope that you can really understand where I am comming from. I am a bisexual in a female-female relationship, but have had both girlfriends and boyfriends in the past. I have been in the so-called “dominatix” position in a relationship, as well as the “submissive” position. I would rather get to know a person and hope that the “positions” fill themselves out over time. I don’t perfer one “position” over the other, but I do like to have control once in a while. I have many gay and bsexual male friends, and they are ok with switching roles now and then. It all depends on the person, I guess. That is just my opinion and you don’t have to agree with it, but thank you for giving me the chance to speak my mind.
Posted by: Somomo | January 30, 2006 10:58 PM
I am not sure about me being a sissy. I love being a maid servant but not wearing silly french maid uniforms but proper sensible domestic uniforms and doing proper housework. I have had a lot of experience for doing just that
Posted by: Maid Angela | August 23, 2006 6:30 PM
No male should DARE even think about trying to look like, dress like, or act like a Female. It’s presumptuous to pretend to be a Goddess when you are in reality just a worm.
Posted by: worthless dog | August 25, 2006 12:20 AM
The gist of this feminizing thing is pretty much a part of the genetic spectrum and how one is raised, meaning also how certain things in one’s early life are imprinted on the psyche.
Also, if one is submissive and in some kind of relationship with a Domme, there is a certain mindset that softening the male ego is beneficial, hence to feminize is to alter and elevate the lowly male by making him softer and more feminine…
To some, this is certainly humiliating - to others it is acceptance of their owners’ wishes…
Posted by: arianna | September 18, 2006 8:09 AM
i want to wear female dress because they are very sexy..
Posted by: aaa | September 18, 2006 12:14 PM
arianna -
After thinking about it more I’ve come to understand that many men may be able to use this to cope with gender identity issues that they could not otherwise face.
Posted by: Richard | September 18, 2006 2:19 PM
While I am submissive to certain special females in my basic male mode, I am a skilled and delightful Domme when I am wearing my leather corset and high heeled thigh boots - of course not forgetting my makeup and hairdo! I am good at what I do, and very happy in both worlds of psyco-physical pleasures. Richard/Rickie, depending…
Posted by: Richard/Rickie, depending... | September 20, 2006 10:51 AM
I wear my wife’s panties and nylons all the time. I also wear bras 99% of the the time, it would be all of the time, if she would let me. I carry a shoulder bag with me wherever I go. I wish she would let me wear makeup, dresses, blouses, and skirts all of the time. Because I enjoy being feminized. I also wish I had huge breasts, areolas, and nipples as well.
Posted by: Ronny/Regina | March 5, 2007 12:16 AM
For me, Its not about sex—I love to dress in pretty dresses and lingerie and be feminine….Its the wonderful relaxed feelings that I get when Im dressed—the softness and gentleness that are burried deep inside of me that are allowed to surface…I have know desire to have sex with anyone other than my wife—but I do love to dress and be a girl…
Posted by: Candiejane | March 9, 2007 9:30 AM
Hi , I come from India , And slowly But surely I am getting into believing into female powers , I just feel like becoming one but i am very scared , I want to begin my journey into female hood Please Help me
Posted by: coolguy | April 28, 2007 4:54 AM
i am maid Betty and i was lucky that my wife earns lot of money. She theirfore decided to let me be her maid 24/7 for the last four years. My Mistress is very demanding and insist of me to wear plain maid uniforms with white pinafores.i work long ours and enjoy being her sissy. Our sex is kinky,but absolutely great. The only disappointment is that all the meals i prepair i have to eat in the kitchen. Sometimes i feel a bit loney ,because we do not share bedrooms either. My rewards are great as a sissy, because i feel very fem and moist in my panties. This was my dream come thru.
Posted by: Maid Betty | January 7, 2010 6:44 PM
There is nothing(for some males)more exciting than the look and feel of womens’ clothing.My deepest sexual fantasy is to be lovingly feminized by a woman who understands this and is secure in her self-image as to not feel threatened by this.
Posted by: Swish-list | February 1, 2010 6:14 PM