Massages

Massages are often treated as a form of service in D/s and a gift you can give a lover at almost any time.

Some folks have a bit of performance anxiety at the prospect of massaging a partner. According to my lovers I have a knack for giving them.
I’ve never taken a massage class or even looked at a book.

My start was in trying to help someone cope with neck and back pain. No great tactile sensitivity is required to spot knotted muscles with your fingers. When you find a knot you press. What follows seems to depend on the body of the individual. Some people respond best to a series of firm pressures, usually seems for about half a minute. Moving the knot around with your fingers will always help ‘break up’ the knot. In either case you learn the appropriate level of pressure by watching their response.

The subject will wriggle and make entertaining noises. Your hands will learn how to harmonize with their musculoskeletal system’s needs. And you’ll surely be told when it hurts. Causing pain is often the desired goal when a person has serious problems (professional physical therapists often leave their clients feeling as if they’ve been beaten up). Charles’ needed such harsh pressure I often felt like I was going to damage him.

Even when massaging for pure pleasure being discerning with your fingers and attentive with your ears will enable you to leave someone limp and satiated. The feet with all their tiny bones are especially susceptible to all manner of happy manipulations.

Anybody can learn how to give a good massage after a few attempts. And you can always buy a book (or look on the web).