My Personal D/s Idiolect

This is an extension of my note about why I’m not wholly happy with the term Femdom and rarely use it.

In many things, not just D/s, I often seek to establish my own idiolect, personal vocabulary if you will. Or at least avoid the most common clichés.

Hence often using Woman Worship instead of Femdom. For a generic term anyway: really in this case it is Alexandra Worship. While my D/s feelings for her are certainly part of a more general desire to be humbled, used and abused my sexual responses come from my adaptation to the individual.

And while it may seem a bit too fancy I prefer Domina to Domme. Especially when referring to Alexandra. Not that I see anything wrong with the word Domme.

I’m very happy that when she has me surrendered to her she has me call her Goddess. There’s nothing wrong with the word Mistress. But much of its power is exhausted by its usage in Femdom erotica and so many online dominant women. Goddess besides being slightly less common captures the sense of worship that I bring to our D/s relationship when it is at its most deeply felt.

Likewise I tend to not refer to myself as a ‘submissive’ though I certainly can be very submissive. For me the words surrender and slavishness more truly capture the nuances of my inner experience. (And as I’ve said before ‘sub’ is best left for underwater craft.)

I don’t claim a whit of originality in this. Just my attempt to frame and understand my experiences without cultural clutter. To be a more fully self-realized individual as well as a part time male slave.

Should you be a precision I should state that I know idiolects by their very nature are personal. I was carelessly redundant when I created this entry’s title.

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