BDSM and Tears

Troia:

And yet, in my own experience, pain alone will *never* make me cry; I have to be in deep submission and have a certain feeling, then the tears of suffering can come, as I accept it and show it with my tears and pleas, and with what is delivered still until he is done.

Janet Hardy (Greenery Press):

I believe that “good crying” in scene comes from the exact same place as laughter or orgasm — they’re all about being so filled up with energy that it has to spill out somewhere.

Tears are pretty close to a fetish for me — it’s a huge turn-on if I can take a partner to tears and comfort them afterwards, or if I can go there myself with the right partner.

Stephen Harris:

I’ve started crying in scenes; I didn’t use to. I think that as I’ve got to know Tori better and better I’m now able to be more open with her; where, before, I would hold back and keep better control of myself (something I was trained to do a long time ago as a child) I’m now able to let that side of myself show and expose my vulnerabilies to her.

Crying

I have quite a bit of that ingrained stocism. Also from my childhood. I wouldn’t say that I was trained. But I did condition myself to not display emotion as a way of hiding my vulnerability.

I know some dominant women find the concept of pushing a man to tears abhorrent. I find the possibility both thrilling and spooky. There’s no denying I’m a thrill-seeker in BDSM. But I wouldn’t want to do anything seriously unwise. Especially if in inducing it Alexandra would feel any guilt.

There’s no forecasting the morrow.