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Speaking of labels …
From an interesting thread in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm:
Submitting to someone else:
You’re doing what you’re doing because it will please someone else.
Submitting to yourself:
You’re doing what you’re doing because *submission* is pleasing to you, more so than the actual action you are doing in the effort to submit. You have chosen to submit to a certain act, you are pushing through and acomplishing that goal, you are pleased with yourself for being able to do that.
Submitting to the pain:
Letting go of everything around you, falling ‘in to’ the pain instead of away from it, welcoming it even when it’s agony and finding ways to push through your own boundaries and anger and prefered levels and types of pain to simply embrace the pain you are dealing with at the moment. Some times you have to do all of those things for *each* blow.
Comments
Of course submitting to Alexandra is very pleasing to me.
And while I’m good at submitting to the pain I’d like to become better at it to enhance the pleasure we both can find in S&M.
Posted by: Richard | November 13, 2006 5:58 PM
Honey, why did you post a comment to your own writing instead of just editing it?
I’ve never thought of categorizing types of submission in this manner but it’s certainly interesting.
I think each of those elements can certainly be enjoyed as a whole as well! (Though the first two seem possibly contradictory in unison)
Posted by: Alexandra | November 19, 2006 6:33 PM
I used to comment on my own post all the time back on LJ. Not sure why.
Oh, I think the first two go together pretty well, honey. I like to melt before you. Makes me so very happy.
I just thought the other person’s distinctions were kind of interesting. Not sure that I’d say that I subscribe to them.
Posted by: Richard | November 19, 2006 6:47 PM
I meant to put emphasis on the word ‘seem’. Of course we understand how they go together (yummy!)
Posted by: Alexandra | November 19, 2006 7:01 PM