Alexandra as Lady Discipline

A transsexual dominant woman is more of a staple of a great deal of fantasies by many. Though a lot of them deal with the sissification of the one being subdued… by an older wiser and harsher person. A kind of a This is For Your Own Good, type deal.

But as for Alexandra being T bothering me? Not in the slightest… shes not the only dominant person who is T dear ;)

Miss Silver Vancouver BC

This was the first explicit statement of Alexandra’s gender identity here. I wanted to leave that to do first in her own weblog. A few readers have backtracked to my main personal weblog, Pansexual Sodomite, and found out already.

I don’t pretend that my feelings about sissyfication are anything other than personal. They stem partly from my long attraction to all sorts of gender atypical persons. And the image of femininity as inferior doesn’t work for me. Being feminized wouldn’t make me feel less a man or anything. Just doesn’t resonate.

WOW,this is really a curve ball.I love the fact that it is a big world and we are all unique.I got a great laugh and for a moment thought about my posts.I then laughed again and know I would write them exactly the same.Thanks for the great site and thanks for your shared lives.Alexandra,great shoes.

This wasn’t so much of a curveball. As Miss Silver states, it’s quite a common theme in the minds of strongly submissive men. Our culture is heavily patriarchical. Any who doubt this can easily search for the relevant examples and clear proof.

So, we have the submissive (in this fantasy theme) dominated by a Woman, who also possesses the ultimate power symbol, as our culture has imprinted in the submissive’s mind. Mind you, it’s not all-conquering as the female Dominant’s rubber dildo is, because it detumesces after the Dominant achieves Her pleasure. But the submissive gets the reward of receiving (and relishing) that Dominant’s spend.

I don’t know much about the site’s readership. I know some transgendered people have met hostility from men who say they aren’t ‘real.’

Clarifications for folks who run across this entry:

My relationship with Alexandra preceded her wearing dresses.

My surrender to her is rooted in my romantic love for her.

While androgynous, she isn’t a “chick with a dick” and to date none of our play has involved penetration by her or the use of strap-ons. If she wants to do some of that it is OK. If she doesn’t it is equally OK.

Eventually I will get around to posting the other picture of this outfit (or more specifically, me wearing it) that I preferred.

You fooled me. I do think men and woman think differently, but Alexandra didn’t strike me as a man in writing. It doesn’t bother me, but it sure changed my picture of your relationship. It recolors the way I think about your relationship, inside and especially outside the bedroom. The male female difference is different draw/challange, when marrying two lives together than the same sex you/me difference. I’m not saying this very well, but the difference of otherness seems so strong in your blog. Maybe I need to rethink this.

I hardly think of Alexandra as transgendered anymore, just as a woman. I lived with a genetic female for five years. And don’t think of Alexandra as any less womanly.

Gender is personal identity and performance.

Sadly most peoples’ perception of transgendered people is from crap like the Jerry Springer program.