Practice makes better?
» Prior Relationship
We’ve found ourselves individually and mutually in the mood to play only to have the desire evaporate without doing anything.
As with any art or craft perfectionism can be more of a vice than virtue. Waiting for just the right harmonies of mood and circumstance: you risk having nothing. Not that it should be forced.
Hopefully we’ll engage in more rehearsal. With steady exercise the right neural pathways will open more readily.
I’d like to make the practice whippings more focused and fierce. So that we can safely push the edge when she whips me during D/s. I’d like to experience the altered state that many masochists speak of. And for her own pleasure to deepen as well.
More exploratory bondage: the more easily she can lock my body to her taste the less likely some glitch will distract us. (Selfishly, a little bit of bondage seems to bring out the Domina in her).
And I think even a light routine will make us more likely to slip into the mood.
Comments
I have a Similar problem i think most of the trouble is me wanting to much to soon? and my Mistress gets upset with me and it all falls flat. (Toppin from the bottom i guess) I love to play so much i can take it personaly. keep up the good work!
Posted by: slavem | June 19, 2005 5:37 PM
I think the two of us may each be guilty of waiting for ideal circumstances. A foolish thing to expect of almost anything in life. You have to keep your expectations reasonable or you’ll wind up with little or nothing.
Assuming you can distinguish between your needs and your desires (which isn’t easy nor are they necessarily different things) perhaps you haven’t conveyed your needs to her clearly enough. Or made it clear to her how happy and satisfied she can make you.
Sexuality’s only sane goal is mutual satisfaction. I realize you don’t want to offend against D/s proprieties but acting as a slave doesn’t make you an inferior person.
Best of luck.
Posted by: Richard | June 20, 2005 8:08 AM