Spankings : Yes or No?

I tend to agree, Richard. “Spare the rod and spoil the child,” springs to mind. I think everyone should be taught discipline. If they’re not taught as kids, how to deal with them effectively as adults?

It depends on the kid.

My sister got spanking after spanking and it didn’t do a thing. It didn’t get her to listen to my mom, but I’m sure when she was really young it kept her out of some dangerous situations (hand on the stove kind of deal).

But I got a total of 3 spankings as a kid. I remember exactly why I got each one, and I absolutely hated it and was terrified of it. I’m still not a fan of spankings in play.

So it worked on me but it traumatized me to a point, didn’t work on my sister and didn’t traumatize her at all. Regardless, I don’t see any use for them past the age of a toddler, there should be better a better way to teach a kid a lesson. But when they’re that little sometimes that’s all that you can do.

I’ve had some pretty serious spankings as a child. No, let me qualify that: I’ve had some beatings with a belt. Not just a few smacks, but dozens of swings to put me “back in line.” The worst thing was that I never did those juvenile delinquent things that one would expect would merit such punishment; these were for such minor infractions as forgetting to take out the trash, getting a bad grade, or playing pranks - the kind of things that other friends merely were grounded for doing.

Believe me, there was nothing erotic about them. And for years, I often wondered why anyone would think corporal punishment could be something sexual.

I once had a partner with whom I felt “safe” in experimenting with more BDSM-y scenes. Once she had me tied face down and went at me with a small whip, just to see if she could cause me pain. Know what? It hurt like hell. And worse, it suddenly brought back memories of being a young teen and having to take all those beltings. I started to cry softly, although I didn’t safeword. And afterwards, I still didn’t see anything erotic.

I did, though, understand how some people could eroticize it, but it just didn’t do anything for me. Likewise, I don’t expect that a punishment paddling would have any impact on me, either.

The Edge of Vanilla

I remember a friend whose father literally chased him down the street with a big leather belt.

I can remember only two whippings. I didn’t like either at the time. Though I know that I did eroticize one.

My mother spanked me about once every three weeks beginning when I was 10. She spanked me for being messy, talking back, poor grades, “being lazy,” not calling home, taking the car without permission, etc. I am a very successful student, popular, sociable. Unknown to my mother, I have a spanking fetish. I love being spanked for (pretending to be) all the things she spanked me for and by women can plausibly pretend to be my mother with the added feature of lustful eroticism. I hated being spanked by my mom but not by these wonderful surrogates.

My father would paddle me when I misbehaved, taking me to my room and making me lay across his lap. I towed the line to avoid the paddle, but being a normally rambunctious child, would endure the sting and burn of it from time to time. While the prospect of getting spanked terrified me as a small child, now I find it very arousing when I masturbate either by myself or with my husband. No, my husband doesn’t spank me…

I have to admit to this: there was a time when my mother spanking me turned me on, and I’d actually masturbate over it.

See, my mom was only 16 when I was born. Also, she is white and blonde, and my father is black. I never met my dad, and my mom raised me. When I was 10 and just starting to get my horemones raging, my mom was a still-sexy only 26, so you can imagine why I found my mom so sexy.

She never did anything sexually inappropriate to me. But, man, growing up thinking that blondes were the hottest, having my own blonde mother spank me started to get me hard. I loved it when she’d put me over her lap, pull down my pants just enough to expose my butt to the air, and she always spanked me across the middle of the butt.

I think that when I was 11, I started to get a boner when over her knee.

When I was 4, I ran out into the street, she ran after me, and gave me a very hard spanking. I still remember that, and if I need help coming during sex, I think about that, and get turned on.

Also sexy was when I misbehaved at the pool or beach, my mom would be showing off her body in a bikini, and she’d put me over her lap, with my body rubbing up against hers, and my rock hard penis boring into her legs.

Kinda strange, but it was true.

Does anybody else like diaper spankings, like I do?

That’s where I lie on my back, pull my own legs back, and my girlfriend spanks me. This is supposed to be very humiliating.

What I like about this is that I ask the girl to alternate between spanking me and tickling my testacles (and, testacle tickling feels GREAT when you’re in this diaper position). Girls with nice long fingernails will get you hard in a hurry, as they tickle a guy’s testacles and legs in the areas around the testes.

More than one girl has added the same wrinkle when doing this. In addition to diaper spanking me and tickling my testes, they will mix in some BLS (balls licking and sucking) and even some bbbj.

When your testacles are wet from a girl licking them, when she then tickles them, oh god, that makes it feel even hotter!!

As I see the original question it is if CP are more than a kind of foreplay? Well I have had relationships where my punishments was the pivot point. I need to be spanked or rather, whipped or caned severely at least once or twice a month. Sometimes my partner wants me to satisfy her sexual need and I am ordered to lick her. All I get is a rare permission to wank my self of while she watch and humilates me verbally, but most of the time i am kept in some kind of chastity device. So I will not call it a foreplay thing…….

I don’t think spankings are erotic. My parents would strip us completely naked and whip us with a belt when we were little. Usually it was on the butt but if I was really bad I’d get whipped on my penis. That was very abusive and certainly not erotic.

I am usually caned once each week by my B&D Mistress. I have had as mamny as 50 hard lashes but it is mostly about thirty. It really hurts at the time and I want it to stop but aftrwards I fantsize about it and I want more. I have sometimes emailed her to ask for more.

I can believe that a mans success is controled by a spanking by a lady that loves it. And on the bare buttocks with a cane or whip

The anticipation of being spanked or paddled for me is rather enjoyable and exciting but the punishment itself I don’t enjoy, it hurts.

Not having much self-discipline I need my woman to correct and discipline me through corporal punishment it helps me become a better person.

When I was a boy my mother would spank me (I hated it) up until my early teens. She was a very beautiful looking woman and most of the time after I was spanked and crying she would hold me close to her and comfort me. That part I liked very much and I still do when my woman does it.

I almost never committed the same infraction twice after a good spanking. So I’d have to say in my case spankings helped me a lot.

Spankings do not sexually arouse me, so spanking for fun is out but I definately need them in a submissive relationship with my woman, they keep me in line and obedient.

Spankings are good for a person as long as they do not become abusive.

As I have mentioned in the thread about face slapping, my mother used to spank me on the bare bottom as a child, and also slap my face sometimes. Although I did not enjoy these experiences when they were happening, I would get an erection when I thought about them afterwards. From quite a young age, I started to have fantasies that involved either my mother, one of my stricter teachers (there were two teachers at my school who were not averse to giving wayward pupils a smack on the hand), a sexy female celebrity or just some completely invented woman, and the core of these fantasies would involve me being spanked and/or slapped for quite prolonged periods. Often in these fantasies, I would be naked, and so would the woman spanking me. (My mother never spanked me naked, I don’t think. She pulled my pants down but otherwise left me clothed. She certainly remained clothed - quite modestly at that - the whole time.) The vast majority of spankings were done by hand in these fantasies. However, after reading a Greek myth about the Furies (who eternally whip the souls of bad people in Hades), I also had some fantasies about being whipped. (I have never been whipped in real life, however, and I don’t think I want to be.) To this day, I am turned on by spanking and face slapping (but not by whipping, particularly). However, only hand spanking does it for me. Spanking with any kind of implement leaves me cold. Face slapping, as far as I know, is always done with the hand. In addition, it has to be a woman doing the spanking or slapping. If a man is the “top”, it’s boring. Maybe this is related to the fact that my mother and a couple of female teachers gave me nearly 100% of my physical punishments as a child, and that, bar a couple of beltings, all my mother’s punishments were carried out by hand only (I don’t think my teachers ever gave me more than a smack on the hand, but one teacher did once threaten me with a bare-bottom spanking - this actually gave me a slight erection, at the age of six!).

Because of my childhood experiences, I have mixed feelings about corporal punishment for children. On the one hand, it may actually help a wilful and rebellious child behave better. On the other hand, there is frequently a sexual element. It probably wasn’t sexual for my mother (although I don’t know this for certain), but who knows how many parents (not to mention teachers!) actually get off on it? I guess my position is that it may be OK in a very limited capacity. By limited, I mean restrict it to a few quick swats on the bum, and then only when other efforts have failed. Don’t do it on the bare, and don’t make a big ritual out of it. It will either be traumatic for the child, a turn-on for the child, or (as in my case) a bit of both.

BDSM play is an entirely different matter. In that kind of context, spanking on the bare, prolonged rituals etc. are a Good Thing if that’s what the “bottom” enjoys. Of course, unlike with spankings given by parents, it should be consensual at some level (otherwise it would just be abusive).

But you asked whether corporal punishment should go beyond BDSM play. Well, it has and still does, notwithstanding the stricter laws that many countries have passed against it now (a lot of countries now outlaw corporal punishment in schools, for instance). As I said above, I think there is a place for physical discipline, but in a very limited capacity. In my own case, the punishments my mother gave me might have made me a better person, I don’t know, but they were also the genesis of my hand spanking and slapping fetishes.

My husband spanks me from time to time. Both as play and punishment.

In my eyes, there is no difference in kneeling on rice, being gagged, blindfolded and bound and left in a corner or being spanked, or even writing sentences. If I wanted to do it, or have it done to me, it wouldn’t be punishment.

I was spanked as a child, until I was about 14 or so. I don’t remember the last one I got, nor the first. They were pretty run of the mill spankings. I remember yelling I was sorry, and that my mother had this uncanny ability to swat the same damned spot relentlessly. I dreaded the “Wait until your father gets home!”

Today, I love my spankings. I love his hand first and foremost, the belt second. I love all sorts of hitting implements as well, but tend to prefer the stingy vs the thuddy. I even love it up my back. Oh, heaven.

Frankly, it depends on the people involved and what they like/dislike. A far more horrible punishment for me is laying on my back on a chair mat that was upside down. Trust me, he threatens me with that and all the fight goes right out of me. The Mat of Mental Correction works far, far better as a deterrent for me than any spanking I’ve ever got.

i say ( yes ). as my dad did me . as i got older i injoyed them .so when i marryed .i got one that will for game and when i shouldn’t have done that. thought out the years ,she started on whiping me on the dick/balls that it goes to the point faster. thats after she takes off a hardness off of them. she use to whip me for playing with myself. but she find a way to stop that. and holds the only key. so yes to that.

The first girl I ever spanked I had an orgasm right in the middle of it. I discovered my sexual excitement as soon as I had smacked her bare ass just a couple oftimes. I got a hardon right in her belly. The harder I spanked, the hotter I got. At the end, I was laying it on…it felt SOOoooooo GOOD!

Well! She really got pissed off, yelling, swearing, threatening…lol She was particularly pissed because I had an orgasm inflicting pain on her. I really enjoyed her struggling and fighting every blow. She couldn’t do anything about it, however.

Later, she confessed that she got VERY hot being forced to submit to me and wanted it again…and again,..and again!

The secret was she got hot because I would orgasm during the punishment. She loved how excited I got and would deliberately piss me off to get me to spamk her….YAHOO!!