Romantic Submission
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I’ve written how my surrender feels like a part of my instinctive gallantry or, to use an even more antiquated word, chivalry. Here’s part of a note about the parallel between loving submission and romance.
The romantic crush is a sudden falling in love. You think about the person you love, you want to be with him, you look eagerly for any clue that he like or does not like you. It feels wonderful and it is full of anguish. You probably fantasize about pleasing him. Males can have fantasies of sacrificing themselves for their loved one. Note how much this is like submissiveness.
Anyway, submissiveness somehow triggers this same state. You should watch for this. When it occurs, his submissiveness isn’t a game any more, it is for real.
Comments
Now this is what I like to see. For submission to be accepted as an expression of love in our society we have to get rid of the notion the submissive=weak.
Posted by: CaptainTripps | November 15, 2005 8:48 AM
submission isn’t a sign of being “weak” … quite the opposite in fact, it is true strength. in the history of “religious faith” we find that the heroic person was the one who opposed the common trend of the many and “submitted to God’s will” instead … to obey the One Who is “above us” takes strength of will and character . . and it is an expression also of one’s love and devotion to “the Divine”.
this translates into our interpersonal relationships also (since how we interact with each other as people IS a reflection of our interaction with “God”) … so for a man to “submit” to a Woman is an indication of his own strength (and it takes a strong character to do this in a culture which might ridicule or belittle this, just as it takes such strength to “go against the flow” of so much that is “mass culture societal sheep herding”.
the true “weak” are those who conform to the expectations of social conventions when their heart and mind wants to be elsewhere.
Posted by: michael g.b. | November 15, 2005 9:00 AM
Well said. Unfortunately we live in a society where the perception of strength is more important than strength itself. It’s what keeps pro-dommes in business. The people who visit them want to submit, but would face severe consequences if they were outed. My impression is that it’s easier to come out as a homosexual than as a submissive. I could be wrong, though.
Posted by: CaptainTripps | November 15, 2005 10:38 PM
Mistress has a dual purpose with her toy…..Mistress considers her toy a treasure…so that is the romantic side of it …..BUT toy also needs guidence so that is the Mother side of her dual role …….and at least for this couple the two enhance each other
Posted by: Mistress Jonie | November 19, 2005 2:54 AM
You hit a nerve, Mistress Jonie. I’m a toy without a girl to play with him :( But it’s a lot deeper than just a few kinks. Guidance is something I desperately need, and I’ve come to realize that I need to pursue this part of me to motivate me to reach my true potential. I feel like I have to do it for someone else. Anyone else feel that way?
Posted by: CaptainTripps | November 20, 2005 4:52 AM
to nurture a relationship to dig into the bowel of a toys mind …that is the guidence part….a proper Mistress/Mother can get deeper then anyone else I have realized the power given to me the supremacy …..and my treasured toy has inspired me …and because of his willingness to leave his comfort zone as I encourage him to dig deep and share all the most intimate of thoughts OUR/our relationship is firmly established …this Mistress wishes captain tripps well in his search
Posted by: Mistress Jonie | November 23, 2005 10:14 AM