Bondage and voluntary slavery
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One area where Alexandra and I feel a sort of D/s cultural disconnect is bondage.
The idea of binding a slave had simply not occurred to her: his freely given surrender would restrain him.
Overall I can't argue with that but I do have one small demurral. In approaching a limit or trying something more extreme if the slave is physically stronger than the owner then bindings may serve a practical purpose: keeping the slave from exceeding the limits of his own self-control.
My own sense of the role of bondage is different.
In allowing yourself to be physically constrained so you know longer have the option to stop or leave or control your own bodily position the surrender seems total. You are allowing yourself to be made truly helpless. "No" becomes a word without meaning.
For me being chained, collared and cuffed is deepest enslavement.
Not that it is for me to argue with Alexandra's perceptions. (This isn't to suggest that I don't have a right to my own opinions. But in D/s the dominant's desires must be preeminent.)
The man above captures my own sense of tangible servility. Every part of him is locked as he worships his Domina by licking her boot. I felt like a giddly child the first time I saw the drawing (this is a detail, the entire image can be seen on www.kinkyartists.com). It seems a very tender and romantic image of voluntary slavery.
And happily Alexandra has been willing to explore this with me.
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The physical bondage is an adventure and a gift.Mistress loves watching me play as I do her.This is fun to me in a way hard to explain.First I think we spent too much time early on playing roles,and roles are fun in their own way.We got all serious and spoke in that Mistress slave speak.Notice I use “I”,not “i”,to refer to myself and others choose to do this,great.Strip me naked,all smoothly groomed and touch me with rope,pull out the cuffs,Put a blindfold on me,or even ask me to tie up Mistress,WOW!My hands get cold and numb,my body is one big goose bump.There are other signs,however sex is always optional.Mistress once thought that bondage and sex were directly linked for me.The questions from time to time are;is bondage a pure fetish,more of a focus then her?,and is bondage needed to achieve orgasm?This answered,she will usually indulge my need in hope of hearing that I don’t want to be tied.This hasn’t happened yet,but if it does she may begin a marathon session lasting who knows how long.That is her nature and her style of play.She is always amazed at the contraptions I invent and make.Her amusement is also my goal and most of the bondage is to be volnerable,for whatever.This is usually tickling,but sometimes sex.Sometimes I am permitted to orgasm,if she has grown tired of my suffering and frustration.I spend alot of time trying to beat my cock against something for relief.There is one rule and that is that I must attempt to get free.No fake bondage here for either of us.She loves to watch her houdini escape,or give it a good try.Bondage is an adventure to me, a very physical event,and yes a mood changing activity.However,it is safer than drugs or booze.
Posted by: Dave | August 8, 2005 1:13 PM
D/s capitalization is something I’m meaning to write about.
Bondage began as primarily something for me. I think she gets some pleasure out of it now.
Posted by: Richard | August 12, 2005 8:10 AM