The Joy of Consensual Nonconsensual
» Worship & ecstasy
Looking back it seems as if I’ve spent considerable time talking about toys and fetishes. No shame in that. Much of the latter, as is a much of this site, is an attempt to communicate with her. I return to my heart.
Consensual nonconsensual play is one of the commonplace mottos of D/s.
No honorable dominant would exact nonconsensual suffering. Every natural slave craves it.
I’ve never known quite what to make of this image by Bishop. He’s clutching a teddy bear. It looks as if his ego is so dissolved that a gesture from her makes him flinch. Part of me can’t help but respond to his helplessness.
Alexandra may hurt me but she’ll never harm me; use but never abuse.
Everything she does to me is with my consent, at least implicitly. When she helps me reach the richest, most consummate level of surrender I would likely consent to anything. My mind melts; I’d probably crawl across broken glass.
A dangerous, mad place for a man to go you may say. Not that many don’t want - or is it imagine they want it? The more purity with which I can give myself the more we are each able to realize our needs.
It could be a risky place for a mind to go. But I’m safe within her power. Which is why I often repeat our love and my faith in her as if it were a mantra.
When you aren’t able to refuse anything having a loving partner - however much she may enjoy your suffering - is a gift beyond value.
Comments
Interesting that you used the word “gift.” My boy just used that word recently. Usually it’s used by people to describe submission. Anyhow, glad I found your blog. I’ll keep an eye on it. C
Posted by: C | May 24, 2005 8:53 AM
For people on our end joyful surrender can’t seem like anything other than a gift. Equally true of sane dominance or anything else that allows you to feel ecstasy. Not that I really know what it is like on your end. We get to lose ourselves but those in control must be ever alert.
Posted by: Richard | May 24, 2005 9:21 AM
TRUST is the key to it all. If you trust your Owner, you have already “preconsented” to anything She can or will do. Because you know, and She knows you know, that She will never do anything not exactly right.
“Exactly right” means within the physical and biological limits of what’s safe and sane, and also what will fit the needs of Her slave to a T.
Again, you are a lucky dog, Richard, and Mistress Alexandra is the perfect Goddess. I kiss Her boots in homage.
Posted by: bootlicker | June 10, 2011 4:03 PM