The Joy of Consensual Nonconsensual
» Worship & ecstasy
Looking back it seems as if I’ve spent considerable time talking about toys and fetishes. No shame in that. Much of the latter, as is a much of this site, is an attempt to communicate with her. I return to my heart.
Consensual nonconsensual play is one of the commonplace mottos of D/s.
No honorable dominant would exact nonconsensual suffering. Every natural slave craves it.
I’ve never known quite what to make of this image by Bishop. He’s clutching a teddy bear. It looks as if his ego is so dissolved that a gesture from her makes him flinch. Part of me can’t help but respond to his helplessness.
Alexandra may hurt me but she’ll never harm me; use but never abuse.
Everything she does to me is with my consent, at least implicitly. When she helps me reach the richest, most consummate level of surrender I would likely consent to anything. My mind melts; I’d probably crawl across broken glass.
A dangerous, mad place for a man to go you may say. Not that many don’t want - or is it imagine they want it? The more purity with which I can give myself the more we are each able to realize our needs.
It could be a risky place for a mind to go. But I’m safe within her power. Which is why I often repeat our love and my faith in her as if it were a mantra.
When you aren’t able to refuse anything having a loving partner - however much she may enjoy your suffering - is a gift beyond value.
Comments
Interesting that you used the word “gift.” My boy just used that word recently. Usually it’s used by people to describe submission. Anyhow, glad I found your blog. I’ll keep an eye on it. C
Posted by: C | May 24, 2005 8:53 AM
For people on our end joyful surrender can’t seem like anything other than a gift. Equally true of sane dominance or anything else that allows you to feel ecstasy. Not that I really know what it is like on your end. We get to lose ourselves but those in control must be ever alert.
Posted by: Richard | May 24, 2005 9:21 AM