The Romantic Pleasure of D/s
» Worship & ecstasy
Quite some years ago, before the web coalesced within the imagination of Time Berners-Lee my computer hobby (a two-line BBS and an addiction to PC hardware) left me with a rotten case of repetitive stress. My fingers have become inflamed again. A sobering health problem for a man whose livelihood depends in substantial part on taping at a keyboard.
How it diminishes my life with Alexandra was on my mind this afternoon. My weakened fingers are hardly able to continue the massages that have been such a delight to give her. Back, thighs, shins and - of course! - feet: what a joy it is to watch her body exult in response to my ministrations.
As a lover is there a greater joy than watching your beloved respond to your attentions? Again this isn’t particularly D/s. Doesn’t any devoted man exult in seeing her body shudder, her eyelids flutter in giving her pleasure?
As the image of Alexandra’s delight was in my mind a not terribly startling or fresh insight came to me.
The most innocent lover sees a lyricism in the adored one’s responses.
So must the dominant as she watches her surrendered one’s will melt in the rapture of being pleasing.
And kneeling before her, as pet or slave, he dissolves in giddy rapture in seeing the sureness of her power over him fill her eyes.
All find fulfillment in the other’s enjoyment. In D/s and S&M this universal need is refracted through erotic prisms that give out light the majority will never see.
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Delightful Submissive Savant:
As always, when I read your words, I am deeply appreciative of how much we see eye to eye in so many ways.
That TRUE D/s is first and foremost an exchange of love and secondly an exchange of power is the very essense of what makes it work, makes it real, makes it eternal. It is an incredibly sacred thing. The trick is that this is probably the truth of any relationship, no matter the kink level.
Not such a hard thing to understand, I would think. Yet…continually misunderstood.
You must take care of your hands, Richard. They are an extension of your beautiful, giving heart.
For Alexandra, your readers and myself: Take care of your hands, take care of your heart.
Posted by: Angela St. Lawrence | October 26, 2006 12:36 AM
So sorry to hear your RSI is playing up, Richard. It hasn’t stopped you writing a great post though! I concur completely - from both sides of the fence. Raven has often said he takes much pleasure from the look on my face as he delivers each stroke of our implement of choice! Hugs, Sky
Posted by: Mistress Sky | October 26, 2006 3:41 AM
Odd synchronicity, I was thinking these exact same thoughts a couple of nights ago or so.
I miss your/my massage sessions very dearly. We both enjoyed them so much that when we were excelling ourselves in our roles (mine being “massage bottom” I suppose) there was a certain synergy where we quite plausibly became one entity.
At other times I was just a happy puppet, and my dominant side had issues with not wanting to lose control.
It’s amazing how complex and multi-layered a simple physical activity can be, and what you can learn.
I’m assuming that your hands will eventually get remission and the physical sensations will be increased in orders of magnitude by means of our relationship evolution.
In the meantime we could try a handheld massage device.
Sometimes I do wish you were more open to being massaged. I still don’t know why you aren’t (apart from the obvious). But it’s nothing worth worrying about.
Posted by: Alexandra | October 27, 2006 7:49 AM
Hopefully my carpal tunnel will fade again. While I can use a device I really enjoy feeling your individual muscles respond.
Part of my funniness about being massaged may be “vanilla top’s” disease: always wanting to be the doing. Or just an extension of my aversion to being tickled.
But I was getting past that: such a silly inhibition to have.
Posted by: Richard | October 27, 2006 2:17 PM
I am just learning about D/s and how much I am enjoying romantic and/or worshipful power exchanges. Your posts are very insightful. Thank you. :)
Posted by: Lilly | March 5, 2007 12:31 AM
Lilly,
Thank you. It always makes me feel good to know that someone enjoys what I’m doing here.
Posted by: Richard | March 5, 2007 7:02 AM